HELP 19 YEAR OLD KAINE HELP TERMINALLY ill DAD.

MY BEAUTIFUL FAMILYCancer diagnosis HellDR SUPPORT LETTERS TO HELP MOVE US...

Hello, My name is Dean Downey. Im a Single father to 5 beautiful children and 2 of my children have autism.
I am in desperate need to move my children to my Fathers side of the family, due to me be terminally sick.
 

             THIS IS OUR STORY

I have been a single father since 2015. I have 5 children. Georgia age 5, Jenaia age 10 (she has asburges, mild autism), Rhiannon 14, Tyler age 17 ( level 5 fully autistic) and Kaine age 19 (DADS and Tylers Carer) 

At the beginning of 2019, I was raising 5 children on my own, I was working 2 jobs to support my children because I had 5 kids and was only getting money and support for 2 of the 5 children. 

My children were removed  by fax and given to me to raise.  The mother disappeared and wouldn't sign the other 3 over to me so I had no choice but to work 2 jobs to support my children. 
When I received my kids, I made a decision to give up my life and give them. 
They were all in a very bad way and needed alot of help with the mental state of mine. Tyler my 17 year old autistic son lived in the boot of my car for the first 4 months he was with me. We tried everything and anything, adventually it was to much and I had to give up work to concentrate on my children. 

Early October one morning, I just callapsed on my bed and was in absolute argony, so I went to hospital for test.
They found I had pancreatitis and acouple gore stones. When the were removing the stones and testing my pancreas. 
They found that I had stage 3 pancreatic cancer and cancer of the lymp gland (Bowel cancer) 
I couldn't believe what I was herring. Me and my children all thought I was going to die. ( only because my mum died of pancreatic cancer 4 mths after she was diagnosed)
So it was a really stressful time for me and my children. I was in hospital for 10 mths while kaine had to quit his job to raise his brothers and sisters, while I was in hospital.
In order to try and save my life, I had the whipples procedure done ( its the biggest operation they do in medical.
Only thing with my operation, they had never performed the cut through my pancreas before. There was a bigger chance of me dieng through or after the operation then there was of my survival.  It was the biggest operation they had ever performed in medical history)
I had to chance it for my children because im all they had and I wasn't ready to die. I fought strong and hard and came out of the operation good. I heald really quickly and was home after week later. 

I was ment to have chemotherapy every week for 6 months to make sure all cancer was gone. Anyway I was having porta cap put in down the Shoalhaven hospital and the didn't do any scans to make sure it was in the right vein to my heart. So I was waiting 2 weeks for it to heal before chemotherapyand then a day or 2 before I was ready for chemotherapy they did scans to see if it was right in the right spot.
They put it in my artery instead of the main vein to my heart. I was then rushed to Wollongong hospital and could of died from it. Wollongong hospital removed it and put a new one in, it got infected 2 more times and was to late to do any chemotherapy.  They tested me for cancer and it came back I was cancer free. It was the happiest day of my children's lifes.

I had been recovering for well over a year and was healing, I was still constantly sick and sore. Tired all day long and just felt like I was slowly dieing. I went back to cancer centre to get some test done. 

OUR BIGGEST NIGHTMARE WAS ABOUT TO BE REVEALED.

ON THE 16/12/2020;I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH STAGE 5 LIVER CANCER.
I was told by my oncologist that I wouldn't live anylonger then
3 MONTHS. I asked what my option are and my doctor told me if I had the strongest form of chemotherapy and she could maybe keep me alive 12 MONTHS TO 18 MONTHS BUT COULDN'T PROMISE ANYTHING.
 Im only 43 years old and have never spent a day in hospital before all this. I have to try and fight this along as I can to sought my children out.

Our situation right now is were we live my children have no family or no support all for my children after im gone. My children are panicking and very scared. They are putting on a very brave face. Trying to stay strong for me.
I need to move my family home to Queanbeyan NSW because that's were I was born and raised. All my fathers side of the family is there and they would help support my children after im gone.
Only thing is its been 14 years since iv lived there and haven't been there since I was 24 years old.
My son KAINE has told me he wants to raise his brothers and sisters after im gone but its going to be a huge job for him.
I need to move my children to Queanbeyan ASAP so they have family support and people that care about them. I want to see them living in Queanbeyan in a nice home and I need to see them settling in and happy.  Im not ready to go just yet but im running out of time and im starting to panic for my kids. We have no one to help and support us to get them there. Im to sick all the time to move house and do everything that's required to do.

Im trying to raise money to help KAINE abit financially to get them moved from nowra to Queanbeyan and ro help with removalist cost, accommodation cost and general living cost and to get my 8 seater Nissan repaired for kaine before he gets his licence. 
Because of my illness and medication they have to cancel my licence because its to dangerous for me.
Any amount of money would be very much appreciated and you will be thanked by all my children. I really wish I had the money to move them because all this stress is making my cancer worse and making me feel very sick.
All I want is to be in a stress free environment so I can enjoy the rest of my days with my children. I want to go home were I was born so I can get buried with my sister and rip in my home town.

I am trying to raise between $5000 to $10 000  to relocate my children to family and friends were they belong and there people that I no will love and support my children for ever.

Thankyou very much for all your support and encouragement.
God bless use