- J
On Friday, April 24th my parents informed me I needed to find somewhere else to live.
I currently am not able to afford rent, do not have a car, recently received ER hospital bills for at least $300 a month and nearly $8,000 in total due to a week long migraine, and am now trying to find new housing in the middle of a pandemic.
Background: I have been living with them since June 2019 when my previous housing arrangement fell apart and had no other option but to move back in with them - the only difference was I was openly transgender. I had gone broke and was not able to secure a job, and my roommate kicked me out to find someone else who could afford rent.
They agreed to take me in as I tried to work to be able to be financially independent: I had no credit score, no vehicle or way to get to work (there is no public transportation where my parents live), and no job.
My parents, especially my mother, were passive aggressive as a default state, and were constantly hostile. They made me feel guilty for needing to rely on them, shamed me for not being good enough or smart enough to make living on my own work, continuously implying hrt and the cost of it was a mistake and "I should have waited to start it," and of course aren't supportive of my transition. In October 2019 things calmed, but since November 2019 these behaviors I listed ramped back up. It has created a toxic, stressful situation for me and one that I was trapped in if I didn't want to ruin all the work I had made to become independent.
As my father just recently told me (April 22nd), he blamed me for "killing" his son, for taking a part of his heart and smashing it. He was still furious I didn't tell him I started Hormone Replacement Therapy when I did, I hadn't told him until 5 months after, since he probably wished he had time to try and talk me out of it.
I am in this seemingly hopeless situation with no real options besides finding a friend I can stay with. The $2000 goal is just a placeholder, I don't know how much money I need. My future is bleak and there are no good plans of action. Anything helps as I enter unemployed homelessness.
I currently am not able to afford rent, do not have a car, recently received ER hospital bills for at least $300 a month and nearly $8,000 in total due to a week long migraine, and am now trying to find new housing in the middle of a pandemic.
Background: I have been living with them since June 2019 when my previous housing arrangement fell apart and had no other option but to move back in with them - the only difference was I was openly transgender. I had gone broke and was not able to secure a job, and my roommate kicked me out to find someone else who could afford rent.
They agreed to take me in as I tried to work to be able to be financially independent: I had no credit score, no vehicle or way to get to work (there is no public transportation where my parents live), and no job.
My parents, especially my mother, were passive aggressive as a default state, and were constantly hostile. They made me feel guilty for needing to rely on them, shamed me for not being good enough or smart enough to make living on my own work, continuously implying hrt and the cost of it was a mistake and "I should have waited to start it," and of course aren't supportive of my transition. In October 2019 things calmed, but since November 2019 these behaviors I listed ramped back up. It has created a toxic, stressful situation for me and one that I was trapped in if I didn't want to ruin all the work I had made to become independent.
As my father just recently told me (April 22nd), he blamed me for "killing" his son, for taking a part of his heart and smashing it. He was still furious I didn't tell him I started Hormone Replacement Therapy when I did, I hadn't told him until 5 months after, since he probably wished he had time to try and talk me out of it.
I am in this seemingly hopeless situation with no real options besides finding a friend I can stay with. The $2000 goal is just a placeholder, I don't know how much money I need. My future is bleak and there are no good plans of action. Anything helps as I enter unemployed homelessness.