Hi everyone, I’m reaching out today with a heavy heart to share a story about the strongest person I know—my fiancé, Roger Sell . Roger has always been the rock of our family. He took on the role of being the sole breadwinner so that I could focus on finishing college, promising that I wouldn’t have to worry while he took care of us. While we don’t have children together, Roger has been the only father my daughter has ever known, raising her as his own since she was just six months old. Between her and his son, he has worked tirelessly to provide a stable, loving life for both of our kids.
Our lives changed about a year ago when Roger began experiencing debilitating back pain. Things reached a breaking point on January 5th, 2026. An MRI revealed multiple bulging disks that are severely compressing the nerves in his spine, a condition that has also caused him to develop scoliosis. The nerve damage is so significant that his legs frequently give out without warning, forcing him to use a cane just to move. The road ahead is long and incredibly uncertain. Roger doesn’t even have his surgery consultation until June 16th, and we are faced with the terrifying possibility that he may never be able to return to his line of work. Because of these physical limitations, Roger was let go from his job and has been out of work for five months. Watching the man I love—someone who stepped up to be a father when he didn't have to—fall into a deep depression because he feels "worthless" has been the most heartbreaking part of this journey.
Living in Hunter, ND, we are more than 30 miles away from the nearest grocery store, shelter, or emergency resources. We are currently facing a crisis: we are significantly behind on our rent, electricity, internet, and phone bills. We are facing the very real possibility of losing our home and our connection to the outside world. We are late on our truck payment. This vehicle is our only lifeline. Without it, I have no way to get groceries for our family, and I will have no way to find or get to a job myself once we are able to arrange care for Roger. Since I do not have a driver's license and we lack a local support system, we are truly at a crossroads. We are fighting to keep a roof over our children’s heads while we wait for June 16th to arrive.
We are asking for your help to keep our family afloat during this time of total uncertainty. Your donations will go directly toward catching up on rent and utilities so the kids stay safe and warm, securing our truck payment so we can get food and make it to the surgery consultation, and covering basic necessities like food and medical expenses. Your support would mean everything to us—it is the bridge that will help our family survive this storm while we wait for answers. Even if you cannot donate, sharing our story would be a gift beyond measure. Thank you for standing with us and for recognizing the man who has given so much to our children.