Help replace my children’s belongings
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Hi everyone.. a backstory;
My 3 kids and I fled a very abusive situation with their dad. We lived in Saskatchewan, we fled to Alberta to try and get away from him.
He was abusive to me for years, when he decided to lay his hands on our son I knew that was the last straw. In March, we fled and arrived in Calgary. Since then it has been a struggle trying to find work, get us out of the shelters into a home, etc. But I managed to do it! I got a part time fast food job recently and I got my kids and I a basement suite. I also since fleeing learned I am pregnant with my 4th child (with the abuser). It has all been such a rollercoaster but I felt like we were slowing getting back on our feet.
Fast forward to now, due to me being naive & dumb… I gave out our address to someone on Facebook claiming they wanted to help us with groceries.. what I didn’t know is that this person was my children’s father on a fake profile. Today, he broke into our suite, destroyed the majority of our belongings and even damaged the suite itself.(luckily we have an amazing landlord who isn’t charging me for the damage) He even set things on fire, thankfully it was easily contained once fire & police arrived however some of my kids things were ruined, in specific, my sons stash of diapers got the worst of it, along with the size newborn diaper stash I was trying to create for the new baby on the way. I also think somehow he found out I was expecting another child with him, because he destroyed the brand new infant car seat I was given by pouring gasoline on it. He didn’t set it on fire however there’s no way I can use it with the smell of gas all over. I also had a new bassinet I was gifted by someone on a mom group that he smashed and broke the leg off of. He also ended up ruining all of my lab and paper work I had for myself, including one of our kids birth certificate.
He also was trying to physically take my oldest daughter with him, he badly bruised and hurt her arm. This all happened to occur a day before her birthday too..
The woman who lives above us contacted 911 when she smelt smoke & heard what was happening, he was arrested and charged with assault , arson & break and enter, and my kids and I now have an EPO against him. However, this has now left us again, in a bad situation. The police and children services do not want us staying where we currently live for my children’s safety, so we are now left looking for a home, and my kids have barely any of their belongings. I don’t even have a phone or tablet anymore, My social worker is extremely kind and has offered me to use her chrome book temporarily, she was also the one to suggest I make a GoFundMe, to see if maybe anyone could help us.
I have just under $300 left to my name currently, that was actually supposed to go to rent I owed To our current suite. and I know the rental market is already so insane. I haven’t found any living accommodations yet at all, So this is a devastating and stressful thing to happen to us especially right now.
I plan to work my as* off doing cash jobs, taking more shifts at my current job, etc to come up with rent & damage deposit for whatever place we find, as well as I have contacted Alberta works about my situation as I heard they can help with damage deposits.
however all I care about right now is my children’s belongings and their needs. I am raising funds to go 100% toward replacing their belongings. They already didn’t have much to begin with since we fled, but my son who is special needs, really needs replacement diapers. Also with me being due with our 4th baby quite soon, I really need to replace the things I had bought for him/her before I go into labour.
If anyone who is reading this has any spare baby or children’s items they do not need anymore, please contact me. Absolutely anything helps regardless if it’s a donation of an item or money, your kind words or advice, etc. I don’t have any friends really and no family here, so any adult interaction or words of encouragement even is greatly appreciated.
I appreciate you taking the time to read our story ❤️
Below is some of the pictures I managed to take of the incident and my daughters arm.
My 3 kids and I fled a very abusive situation with their dad. We lived in Saskatchewan, we fled to Alberta to try and get away from him.
He was abusive to me for years, when he decided to lay his hands on our son I knew that was the last straw. In March, we fled and arrived in Calgary. Since then it has been a struggle trying to find work, get us out of the shelters into a home, etc. But I managed to do it! I got a part time fast food job recently and I got my kids and I a basement suite. I also since fleeing learned I am pregnant with my 4th child (with the abuser). It has all been such a rollercoaster but I felt like we were slowing getting back on our feet.
Fast forward to now, due to me being naive & dumb… I gave out our address to someone on Facebook claiming they wanted to help us with groceries.. what I didn’t know is that this person was my children’s father on a fake profile. Today, he broke into our suite, destroyed the majority of our belongings and even damaged the suite itself.(luckily we have an amazing landlord who isn’t charging me for the damage) He even set things on fire, thankfully it was easily contained once fire & police arrived however some of my kids things were ruined, in specific, my sons stash of diapers got the worst of it, along with the size newborn diaper stash I was trying to create for the new baby on the way. I also think somehow he found out I was expecting another child with him, because he destroyed the brand new infant car seat I was given by pouring gasoline on it. He didn’t set it on fire however there’s no way I can use it with the smell of gas all over. I also had a new bassinet I was gifted by someone on a mom group that he smashed and broke the leg off of. He also ended up ruining all of my lab and paper work I had for myself, including one of our kids birth certificate.
He also was trying to physically take my oldest daughter with him, he badly bruised and hurt her arm. This all happened to occur a day before her birthday too..
The woman who lives above us contacted 911 when she smelt smoke & heard what was happening, he was arrested and charged with assault , arson & break and enter, and my kids and I now have an EPO against him. However, this has now left us again, in a bad situation. The police and children services do not want us staying where we currently live for my children’s safety, so we are now left looking for a home, and my kids have barely any of their belongings. I don’t even have a phone or tablet anymore, My social worker is extremely kind and has offered me to use her chrome book temporarily, she was also the one to suggest I make a GoFundMe, to see if maybe anyone could help us.
I have just under $300 left to my name currently, that was actually supposed to go to rent I owed To our current suite. and I know the rental market is already so insane. I haven’t found any living accommodations yet at all, So this is a devastating and stressful thing to happen to us especially right now.
I plan to work my as* off doing cash jobs, taking more shifts at my current job, etc to come up with rent & damage deposit for whatever place we find, as well as I have contacted Alberta works about my situation as I heard they can help with damage deposits.
however all I care about right now is my children’s belongings and their needs. I am raising funds to go 100% toward replacing their belongings. They already didn’t have much to begin with since we fled, but my son who is special needs, really needs replacement diapers. Also with me being due with our 4th baby quite soon, I really need to replace the things I had bought for him/her before I go into labour.
If anyone who is reading this has any spare baby or children’s items they do not need anymore, please contact me. Absolutely anything helps regardless if it’s a donation of an item or money, your kind words or advice, etc. I don’t have any friends really and no family here, so any adult interaction or words of encouragement even is greatly appreciated.
I appreciate you taking the time to read our story ❤️
Below is some of the pictures I managed to take of the incident and my daughters arm.
Organizer
Leanne McDowell
Organizer
Calgary, AB