Help Rachel Escape an Abusive Home

Help Rachel Escape Her Abusive Father

Hi. My name is Rachel. I'm trans, and for the last twenty-three years of my life I've spent almost every day getting abuse, micromanaged, controlled and manipulated by my father. He's severely damaged my ability to build a life independent of him. He's done everything he could to leave me with no life skills that would enable me to easily separate from him. He's left me an anxious wreck afraid that every minute mistake, at best, leads to abuse from even the people I love most.

Over the pandemic and beyond I'd justified not running from him somewhere safer for the sake of my sister. She was safer if I was there. I was the only person in her life other than him, and being there allowed her to build a life away from him, even if it came at the cost of my own.

My sister is safe now. She has a support network, a fiance and immediate ways out if things turn south. I can't keep dedicating my life to appeasing a narcissist absorbed in himself and how his children's lives can benefit him. To a self-obsessed abuser who tries to pick random brawls with strangers in the street to feel powerful. Who spent my childhood threatening to abandon us, screaming at and hitting us, and then proceeded to spend the last five years of my adult life pushing me towards an isolated life where he can abandon me to poverty while still reaping the benefits of a subservient, terrified child who exists merely to be a terrified reflection of their abuser

I'm scared of him. I've been scared of him long enough that I put my whole life on hold to avoid the repercussions for me and my sister that angering him would bring. Emotionally and physically.

For years he whittled me down through emotional attacks, threats of homelessness, violence, and even via little degrading things like not being allowed to bathe myself until for almost my entire adult life thus far.

I have a support network now. I have friends that care about me and want to get me out. I haven't been allowed to build a life for myself but things can change. I can be me and I can be free, but I need financial help with my escape plan. I make a very minute amount of money in the schedule my abusive environment allows, and while I'm saving everything I can, a successful campaign would allow me to free myself from my abusive Dad before he can truly ruin my life long term. To build a life that not just frees me from abuse, but allows me to undo the damage of it and build a life far away from it that makes me happy. Change is scary, but with your help I can make it.

What Will Your Money Do?

Donations will go to a number of things. Travel away from here. Future rent for my own apartment once I get somewhere that's safe and distant from my father. Groceries, utilities, job hunting and anything I might need in the future to not just escape, but I make sure I can stay escaped from my Dad. Every cent from anyone who can afford to donate helps increase my odds that I can get away from my abuser and build a life that he'll never have control of again. Where I can be safe, happy and rebuild my mental health after endless years of enduring fear tactics from an abusive narcissist. Asking for this money is tough, but enduring more years of that abuse until I can't take it anymore is harder.

Please help if you can. So one day I can thank every one who does from a healthier, safer, happier place. Where I never have to fear abuse for being me. Where I never have to fear my dad again

Love,

Rachel.