Fundraiser is to help a single mother (Kahli) pay for an attorney & protect their 19 month old nursing baby from the father, who has a history of domestic violence (abusing child and birthing parent). He took the child on March 5th, after almost a year of no contact. He did this legally by filing “child endangerment”. To get this approved, the father did a few things…

1) Cancelled the lease agreement, suggesting that Kahli would be homeless and refusing to offer financial support to relocate (while paying for at least 4 properties for himself & owning at least 3 LLC’s). Kahli has since obtained new housing, and a part time job teaching music.

2) Ignored requests for financial aid and used the emails & texts to suggest that the child was “starving”. Kahli has doctor's notes to prove that kiddo's weight is on track.

3) Weaponized Kahli's reactions to abuse, calling Kahli “crazy”. Kahli’s therapist retired from their practice last fall but a new one has been obtained. Ex suggested and then required that Kahli gets a $4k psych eval before being allowed to see the same baby that Kahli had not spent more than 4 hours apart from, prior to the sudden custody change. These evaluations take months to get into... this is especially wild seeing as none of the 10 references were spoken with and Kahli's previous doctors and therapists were never subpeonaed. Kahli had even gotten their baby a therapist, knowing that the child had been traumatized by the father too. We know that it is a sign of sanity to react to abuse and to intervene when a child is being harmed.

4) Edited videos so that when Kahli described what was happening and why the reaction was so big, that would be cropped out and never presented to the judge. When Kahli expanded the list of concerns to less violent forms of weaponized incompetence, the father used those clips to infer that Kahli was never using self defense but attacking him over the lesser known issues.

5) Stole Kahli’s phone, social security card, passport and birth certificate at least a year ago. He used this information to list Kahli as a current employee of at least one of his companies, disqualifying the Kahli from free legal aid. We later found a pre-meditated note in his handwriting saying “Kahli <- wage garnishment”. Kahli had already done the work to acquire two lawyers at the time (one for restraining order and one for the divorce). Kahli is now forced to self-represent, unable to pay out of pocket for an attorney. He “fired” Kahli from this mystery job the same month that he put in the notice to end the lease, so that there would be no income found when applying for homes.

6. The father then used the phone to cyberstalk, monitor the house via security cameras and even via the “dreame” mopvac (which has capacity to record video and audio 24/7 with camera quality as effective as an iPhone and a setting called “find my pet”). He regularly and repeatedly broke into email, social media and bank accounts too.

When Kahli found out that they were pregnant, K was teaching 30 classes of yoga to children per week, 3 after school music lessons per week, and vending at farmers markets on weekends. Kahli has a long history of babysitting, nannying, and childcare, so both adults knew the value and privilege of having Kahli as a present, stay at home parent.

Fundraiser goal is: $2,400

because that is the cheapest retainer fee that we could find via the St Andrew’s Legal Clinic. The first offer through Oregon Bar/ Modest Means was a $7,000 retainer fee (which is actually considered cheap in family law). The only known payment plans offered are post retainer fee, meaning that the cost of both attorneys are still thousands more, so the payment plans for the additional expenses after being retained are billed in monthly increments, which is how they are considered affordable.

Every share and donation helps, no matter the amount. Thank you for contributing! And thank you for sending good energy, hugs and blessings.