
Help Peter Tubbs Family with Bills
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This is the hardest thing for me to do. My husband, Peter Tubbs, had a massive heart attack on November 10 at 4:45 PM. He coded & I performed CPR and got him back, but he coded again, and I continued CPR until EMTs arrived. While they were working on him, he coded for a third time. They got him back, got him into the ambulance, where he then coded for a fourth time. This time he was down for almost 6 minutes. They revived him. He got back to the hospital, and they brought him to the Cath Lab, where he coded three more times. They repaired the damage to his heart and placed him in a medically induced coma. But at 4 AM on November 11, he coded for the eighth time. He was down for 20 minutes. They placed him on life support, where he has machines breathing for him and keeping him alive. Over the next few days, they were using a warming and cooling machine to keep his body temperature under control to try to heal his brain. He was stable enough to go down for a CT scan of his head on November 13, where they said they did not see any brain activity but needed to run some final tests to truly confirm. They said there were multiple lesions, bleeding into the brain, severe swelling, fluid, and shadowed parts of the brain. We were told that he has no chance of ever waking up again. He's still on life support. I've decided not to turn off the machines yet. I'm just not ready to let him go yet. But on November 14 at 10:20 AM, doctors did their final test and pronounced him. We spent a few more hours with him before removing him from life support. I held him in my arms until his heart stopped. They tell you that to lose a spouse, a child, or a parent is harder than anything you would ever have to go through, and they're right. This is killing me. I don't know how to do this alone without him. We were not financially ready for this. We had no money saved. My husband was on Social Security disability, and his checks paid the rent while I paid the rest of the bills. But there was never any extra money to spare after everything was paid. We lived day by day, but now that he's gone, those Social Security checks will stop. I don't make enough money to pay the rent just yet because I never really had to work that much because I knew his check paid the rent. But now I have to do it all on my own. I'm not ready to leave my home. I still feel him here, and I can't let that go yet. I just need some help to keep me afloat until I can get back on track. I really never wanted to do this and ask for help. I need help with bills, food expenses. My husband is being cremated, thank God for his mom. She's helped with that because we didn't have the funds to do that, we weren't ready for this. This is the hardest thing that I've ever had to do, and I'm not sure I can do it alone without help. I thank everyone who can help, and I thank everyone who loved him, even if you can't help. I understand that everybody is struggling, and it's OK. My husband was an amazing man with an amazing heart. He was funny, kind, a bit of a pervert sometimes, and always told you how it was. He had no filter. But at least his last words to me were I love you, just before he collapsed the final time and never woke up. So if you can help me with expenses, I thank you. If not, your prayers and condolences have meant so much to me and to his family and friends. Even though he may not have shown it much, he did love and care about all of you. My loving husband, Pete, I miss you. I love you. Until I see you again, rest in peace, my love.
UPDATE 3/10/25: We'll I have since been kicked out of my home and had to move into my son's which is very tight. Had to sell most of my stuff that I couldn't fit into a storage unit I had to get , because i couldn't get rid of Pete's stuff yet. I am applying for SSD Widows Benefits but that could take a year if I'm even approved. But while I wait I can only work 45 hours a month which doesn't give me a lot of income. But if approved I hope, I will be making enough to survive and be able to get a place. But I'm still struggling I don't even make enough to pay my son any of the rent after my bills are paid. But I thank everyone who has donated and to everyone who keeps in contact with me to make sure I'm ok. It's hard but I'm ok I just take it day by day.
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Barbara Nolan Tubbs
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Lakeland, FL