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Our family is facing an unimaginable loss. My sister-in-law died unexpectedly and tragically due head on collision. We are raising funds so my husband can travel to Rochester, New York, to say goodbye to his sister at her funeral. This is a heartbreaking time for us, and we want to make sure my husband has the chance to say his final words to his big sister.
My husband works himself tirelessly to provide for our family including our 7 children with medical conditions raging from autism, ODD, epilepsy, muscular neuropathy, and cystic fibrosis. I am unable to work because I work around the clock providing care for our children to keep them safe, happy, and healthy.
The funds will help cover the cost of a rental travel vehicle, lodging, food while traveling, and gas. Whatever is leftover, we will donate to his sister’s children (6 children) to help with any expenses needed and funeral costs. We want to honor her memory and support her family in any way we can.
I lost my sister-in-law who I didn’t get to visit very often. My husband is absolutely devastated considering that was his big sister. Growing up, she was one of the people he looked up to. Any donations to help our family make sure that my husband can say his final words to his sister would mean the world to us! Your support and kindness during this difficult time means more than words can express.
Can we take a moment away from life and read a story that has hit my entire family and leaving us numb and devastated?
This past Sunday at 2am our family was fast asleep, preparing for the new week and last week of school. The kids were up late that night excited about the arrival of summer break finally a few days away. We have four children living in the home with medical conditions (Cystic Fibrosis, epilepsy, muscular neuropathy, and autism) and I am a stay at home mother to provide their care while my husband is the bread winner. There are times in my life as a mother and full-time caretaker, there are a lot of sleepless nights and let’s just say I love my sleep. I have hated that I am a light sleeper (anything can wake me up, then I am up for the day…. Ughhhhh). Let’s just say going through early menopause is not helping the situation when it comes to getting a good night’s rest. I am sure there are a lot of mamas that can relate to that. At 7 AM I woke up to my husband‘s phone ringing, it was my mother-in-law. I knew right then in there something was wrong because she never calls that early. Groggy and barely awake. I answer the phone. “ yeah mom what’s up?” Uncontrollable and devastating, screaming, and crying is all I can hear. “ mom, what’s wrong? talk to me” She screams “I’m dying… where is Larry?” her devastating sobbing continues. Hearing the sounds on her voice, I knew something was wrong. I immediately woke up my husband. “Baby, somethings wrong, mom’s on the phone and she’s crying. I can’t understand her. I can’t get her to talk.” My husband takes the phone… He receives the devastating news that his older sister has died. She was involved in a head on collision car accident. The driver of the car that hit my sister-in-law is going to live and make a full recovery. That has made this situation that much more devastating. We immediately tried to get a hold of his younger sister who had just moved down to Florida with her family a few months back. I called repeatedly from 7 AM to almost 10 AM until she finally answered. “ Sheila, I need you to get up out of bed and go away from the girls.” “ Why what’s going on?” she was still groggy and half asleep. Rubbing her eyes trying to wake up. “No, Sheila, I need you to get up out of bed and I need you to go somewhere away from the girls. They cannot hear me for the conversation I’m about to have with you.” She gets up out of bed and starts to walk outside and ask her significant other to grab her other slipper. “OK, I’m outside now. Please tell me what the hell is going on.” “ Sheila I’m really sorry to have to be the one to tell you this,” as I’m trying to hold my composure and not cry while giving the news, She interrupts me and starts panicking… “what’s wrong? What’s going on? Just get to the point.” “Sheila, I’m so sorry sis, Jamie died in a car accident”. Sheila dropped to her knees, screamed like something out of a horror movie, and the devastation took over her as well. In between the screams and crying, she was able to finally get out while sobbing: “No, not my sister, you’re lying. This is a sick ass fucking joke. Oh god, why god? Not my sister I can not live on this earth without her I need to go home, I wanna go home now!” The conversation that morning on the three way call between Shelia, my husband, and my mother-in-law was one of the most traumatic things I had ever witnessed. That morning, and that phone call will replay forever in my head. Jaime Lynn (Chandler) Seymore was an amazing woman who always helped out anybody in need. She would give the shirt off of her back to anybody who needed it. She helped raise her siblings as a young child to a young adult. This woman knows what it’s like to have your family ripped out from under you due to the circumstances that are out of your control. Growing up she did everything she could to keep her family together. Later, She lived her life, taking care of her six children, and three grandchildren. She gave so much of her own life to provide and raise these children to the best of her abilities. Her and her children lost everything due to a house fire. They didn’t let that get to them. Jaime and her husband rebuilt from the ground up. Three years ago when they had finally became established Jaime lost her husband to an OD a which added on to her devastation and trauma life keeps bring to her. She was recently diagnosed with medical issues beyond her control but still pushed forward. She never let the negativity that life threw on her change her. She worked herself tirelessly to continue raising her family, keeping a roof over their head, food in their belly, and providing every necessity that they needed. She was courageous, kind, giving, to anyone who crossed her path. But don’t let that for you because when it came to her children, she was a complete mama bear. Nobody ever crossed her when it came to her kids because they knew the consequences of it. The children are stuck on auto pilot, and crying at every turn because let’s just say the family genetics are very strong and everywhere they turn all they see is their mother. They are getting angry and yelling at family members or completely ignoring family members because all they hear or all they see is their mother and she’s no longer here. They keep apologizing, but what they felt to realize as we understand and we are not holding a grudge against them for their actions right now. After all their mother was their whole world. Now their family is broken, helpless, tired, and with their mother doing all the providing, they’re trying to figure out how to survive.
My husband works himself tirelessly to provide for our family including our 7 children with medical conditions raging from autism, ODD, epilepsy, muscular neuropathy, and cystic fibrosis. I am unable to work because I work around the clock providing care for our children to keep them safe, happy, and healthy.
The funds will help cover the cost of a rental travel vehicle, lodging, food while traveling, and gas. Whatever is leftover, we will donate to his sister’s children (6 children) to help with any expenses needed and funeral costs. We want to honor her memory and support her family in any way we can.
I lost my sister-in-law who I didn’t get to visit very often. My husband is absolutely devastated considering that was his big sister. Growing up, she was one of the people he looked up to. Any donations to help our family make sure that my husband can say his final words to his sister would mean the world to us! Your support and kindness during this difficult time means more than words can express.
Can we take a moment away from life and read a story that has hit my entire family and leaving us numb and devastated?
This past Sunday at 2am our family was fast asleep, preparing for the new week and last week of school. The kids were up late that night excited about the arrival of summer break finally a few days away. We have four children living in the home with medical conditions (Cystic Fibrosis, epilepsy, muscular neuropathy, and autism) and I am a stay at home mother to provide their care while my husband is the bread winner. There are times in my life as a mother and full-time caretaker, there are a lot of sleepless nights and let’s just say I love my sleep. I have hated that I am a light sleeper (anything can wake me up, then I am up for the day…. Ughhhhh). Let’s just say going through early menopause is not helping the situation when it comes to getting a good night’s rest. I am sure there are a lot of mamas that can relate to that. At 7 AM I woke up to my husband‘s phone ringing, it was my mother-in-law. I knew right then in there something was wrong because she never calls that early. Groggy and barely awake. I answer the phone. “ yeah mom what’s up?” Uncontrollable and devastating, screaming, and crying is all I can hear. “ mom, what’s wrong? talk to me” She screams “I’m dying… where is Larry?” her devastating sobbing continues. Hearing the sounds on her voice, I knew something was wrong. I immediately woke up my husband. “Baby, somethings wrong, mom’s on the phone and she’s crying. I can’t understand her. I can’t get her to talk.” My husband takes the phone… He receives the devastating news that his older sister has died. She was involved in a head on collision car accident. The driver of the car that hit my sister-in-law is going to live and make a full recovery. That has made this situation that much more devastating. We immediately tried to get a hold of his younger sister who had just moved down to Florida with her family a few months back. I called repeatedly from 7 AM to almost 10 AM until she finally answered. “ Sheila, I need you to get up out of bed and go away from the girls.” “ Why what’s going on?” she was still groggy and half asleep. Rubbing her eyes trying to wake up. “No, Sheila, I need you to get up out of bed and I need you to go somewhere away from the girls. They cannot hear me for the conversation I’m about to have with you.” She gets up out of bed and starts to walk outside and ask her significant other to grab her other slipper. “OK, I’m outside now. Please tell me what the hell is going on.” “ Sheila I’m really sorry to have to be the one to tell you this,” as I’m trying to hold my composure and not cry while giving the news, She interrupts me and starts panicking… “what’s wrong? What’s going on? Just get to the point.” “Sheila, I’m so sorry sis, Jamie died in a car accident”. Sheila dropped to her knees, screamed like something out of a horror movie, and the devastation took over her as well. In between the screams and crying, she was able to finally get out while sobbing: “No, not my sister, you’re lying. This is a sick ass fucking joke. Oh god, why god? Not my sister I can not live on this earth without her I need to go home, I wanna go home now!” The conversation that morning on the three way call between Shelia, my husband, and my mother-in-law was one of the most traumatic things I had ever witnessed. That morning, and that phone call will replay forever in my head. Jaime Lynn (Chandler) Seymore was an amazing woman who always helped out anybody in need. She would give the shirt off of her back to anybody who needed it. She helped raise her siblings as a young child to a young adult. This woman knows what it’s like to have your family ripped out from under you due to the circumstances that are out of your control. Growing up she did everything she could to keep her family together. Later, She lived her life, taking care of her six children, and three grandchildren. She gave so much of her own life to provide and raise these children to the best of her abilities. Her and her children lost everything due to a house fire. They didn’t let that get to them. Jaime and her husband rebuilt from the ground up. Three years ago when they had finally became established Jaime lost her husband to an OD a which added on to her devastation and trauma life keeps bring to her. She was recently diagnosed with medical issues beyond her control but still pushed forward. She never let the negativity that life threw on her change her. She worked herself tirelessly to continue raising her family, keeping a roof over their head, food in their belly, and providing every necessity that they needed. She was courageous, kind, giving, to anyone who crossed her path. But don’t let that for you because when it came to her children, she was a complete mama bear. Nobody ever crossed her when it came to her kids because they knew the consequences of it. The children are stuck on auto pilot, and crying at every turn because let’s just say the family genetics are very strong and everywhere they turn all they see is their mother. They are getting angry and yelling at family members or completely ignoring family members because all they hear or all they see is their mother and she’s no longer here. They keep apologizing, but what they felt to realize as we understand and we are not holding a grudge against them for their actions right now. After all their mother was their whole world. Now their family is broken, helpless, tired, and with their mother doing all the providing, they’re trying to figure out how to survive.
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