Domestic Violence Abuse Survivor!

MY ABUSER WON!! He set out to destroy me and he did.

My name is Melanie, and I need your help.

“I’ve always given to everyone… but now, I’m the one who needs help. I’m about to lose everything. I never thought I’d be here writing my own story, asking for help. But the last 9 months have brought me to my knees, and I don’t know where else to turn.”

“I have been carrying so much emotional trauma and pain for the last 9 months. I have been through so much loss, betrayal, harassment, lies, and financial devastation all in such a short time that it cost me my career and broken me down to nothing. I am struggling to breathe through the tears while asking for your help. I’ve lost my income, my benefits, I lost my dad and as of last week my unemployment after 6 months is gone. As of today 9/10 I lost my home that I have rented for 3 years.”

“Any amount would be such a wonderful blessing. Please don’t feel obligated to donate to me. I just don’t know what else to do. I am desperately trying to hold on to the last piece of the life that I had. Everything is gone, except where I live. I am trying to raise money to pay my monthly bills.”

“In my story below, I am very open, honest, raw, and unfiltered. Please note, I will not release the name of this man or the company I worked for due to legal reasons.”

Here is my story…

This one man that I have known for 33 years destroyed my career, my reputation, and my self-worth. He made one phone call / email and told a horrific lie that tore my life completely apart. Being accused of a heinous crime that you did not do has changed my life forever.

These last 9 months have been the hardest in my entire life.

1. I lost my Corgi fur baby Ringo Bingo Bongo to cancer. (December 2024)

2. I lost my job that I loved “not by my doing”. (January 2025)

3. I lost my medical insurance. (February 2025)

4. I lost my dad to cancer. (July 2025)

5. I lost my unemployment payments. (August 2025)

6. I lost my rental home (September 2025)

7. I lost my cat (coming October 2025)

Some background….

I was in a domestic violence abuse friendship/ relationship with this man for about 2 years. I knew him for 33 years. He never hit me, but he manipulated me. He’s very narcissistic and a habitual liar. He was suck a good liar that he could sell ice to an Eskimo and at the same time be stealing from all the Eskimo’s fish too. The Eskimo wouldn’t even see it coming. Apparently, he has mental issues from what his family has told he.

This man was a former police officer. He has now been a licensed private investigator for over 35 years.

In the fall of 2024, something was off with him, but I just ignored it, thinking it was just me. He slowly started to unravel, then one day, he just snapped. To be honest, I am very lucky that he didn’t end up killing me.

In December 2024, I went overseas to visit a family member. At the time, I trusted him completely. I had asked him to stay in my home while I was on vacation. Immediately, I noticed a huge change in him. He started stealing money from me.

The final straw for me was that I had asked him to return a loaner car as my car was in the shop and he blatantly refused.

I told him that I wanted him to be out of my home by the time I return on Christmas Eve. He SNAPPED.

He blocked my Ring doorbell camera, after I saw him bring his rifle into my home. He was threatening me. He refusing to leave my home. Neighbors told me he had some other man in my home that he left unattended.

He threatened my son and I by saying do not come into your place because he doesn’t want anyone to get hurt.

I did call the police from Germany, but they said since he had a key to my house there was nothing they could do.

The harassment and terrorizing text messages and phone calls went daily.

I arrived home on Christmas Eve. I was a nervous wreck. My entire body was shaking. I was terrified. I couldn’t see him, but I know he was somewhere close watching me.

Things seem to be ok; however, he left a bunch of stuff in my spare room. I think it was a way of controlling me and having a way to hold on to me. I was so scared and paralyzed with fear, I didn’t go anywhere. I kept my blinds closed and was scared to even go to my mailbox to pick up my mail. Neighbors would go with me. To this day, I don’t open my blinds.

I did notice that he had stolen my personal items. He also stole my work badge, an old company laptop, my house key, mailbox key, and my garage opener. He stole my son’s military hat and his security jacket from a previous employer.

When I confronted him and told him to return my items especially my old work laptop, he refused. I felt completely trapped. There was nothing I could do.

He began stalking me and following me. Showing up in places I was at. He was threatening me, saying that I was going to jail for things that I’ve done. The harassment and the threats kept growing, and I had to get one of my family members to get involved.

I did tell my company what was going on so I finally felt that I could breathe, but unfortunately, he was so malicious. It was payback time. He wanted to destroying my career, my life and strip me of everything I had worked so hard for.

He called my employer and told them that I gave him the laptop, which I did not do, and then he told them that I had child pornography on this laptop. This was a blatant lie.

I was fired. I lost my job that I absolutely loved. I lost my medical insurance days later. I lost a-lot of my “friends” that I had worked with. My reputation was ruined. I lost my self-worth. He brought me to my knees.

I tried desperately to fight for my job back. I was told, “You can NEVER work here again.” This job was my everything. It was my family. I couldn’t wait to get to work everyday!

Well that’s my story.

Here is the fallout from this man’s lie and why I am asking for help.

I have been looking for a job since January 2025. I’ve sent out over 300 resumes and applications, and I have not heard back from one company. I just found out last week that my unemployment is no more. I have no money at all coming in. I am hoping to raise some money to help me pay for my monthly bills and rent.

I know this is not your problem. It’s mine. It’s incredibly embarrassing to ask for help. I’d rather be on the other side helping others.

I am trying very hard to rebuild my self-esteem and get back by smile which both have been destroyed, but I am struggling to get there. Please understand I’m not looking for a free meal ticket from anyone. I’m just looking for somebody to see me and hear my pain.

Thank you for taking time to read my story!

Always,

Melanie