Hello friends. I need your help. I am in the painful situation of having to plan for the passing of my mom who has been in the hospital for the past 3 months. I will need to raise at least $10,000 for funeral services, cost to cover vacating her home, transportation purposes and any other expenses that may come up. Anything extra will help with living expenses in the event I will have to miss work or work less hours to focus on my healing and mental health as I have acquired PTSD and emotional trauma during this time.
My mom is the strongest person I've ever known. In March she suddenly became bed ridden and lost her ability to take care of herself. I provided as much care as I could for her until June when she had a fall in her apartment. She was on the floor for 2 days until her neighbor called an ambulance. My mom had to tap on her wall to ask for help. She has since been admitted to Staten Island University Hospital. Many test have been done and have shown she was suffering from infections, a large clot in her leg cutting off blood circulation inhibiting her ability to walk, and a large mass on her lung that has been diagnosed as Non-Small Cell Carcinoma Stage III A. She had the clot removed and had a pulse return to her leg, but she has since been unable to walk. On Thursday August 18th, her lung started to bleed making her unable to breathe on her own. She has been sedated and intubated since, and is not likely to recover as the cancer has invaded her blood vessels.
Capri Ureiva Newman now Wills has had a very hard life. Like many woman of color in her time, she grew up with extreme hardships such has mental, sexual, physical abuse along generational trauma. Sadly her hardships continued after she married my father. She stuck it out during their marriage until she could no longer take it. She tried to find love after but never did. When I asked her why she chose to have children, she always said "so I could have someone to love me back". I'd like to think my brother and I did our best to give her that gift. She continued to have a very solitary life after I left home in 2004, but I was always there with her.
She sometimes went days without food as she survived by public assistance which was never enough, and I would go to her house with groceries. I'd take her to concerts with me. I got to see my favorite bands with her including our favorite one Weezer, along with The Strokes, The Flaming Lips, The Mars Volta and At the Drive-In to name a few. She expressed to me that those were the most fun times of her life. I'm so happy I got to share those moments with her. I tried to smother her trauma and depression with fun times that helped us bond in my adulthood. It wasn't easy growing up with her, but I'd like to think I took on her positive qualities. She gave me her green thumb and her love of music. She gave me the will to never give up on people. I only wish we had a little more time together...
She is an amazing and strong woman. She is also hilarious, had a boisterous laugh, and lacked a filter. She is a very honest woman. Through the ups and downs over the last few months, I'm grateful I got to spend so much time with her. She was hopeful before she entered this critical stage, but I also know she was tired and my brother and I want to do what's best for her. She has suffered her entire life, it's painful to continue to see her suffer in her sickness. I'm so proud of her as she fought so hard. I wanted better for her. She deserved better than this...
Thank you to all who have supported me in this journey. There is a special place in her heart for you all and mine as well.
