Help me get gender-affirming top surgery

Hi! I’m Kai! I’m non-binary transmasc and 41 years old (I was 39 when I started this fundraiser ) and I need your help to get top surgery at some point in the near future.

My chest dysphoria is progressively getting worse. I can’t wear binders because I get panic attack from my chest being that compressed so I rely on tight sports bras and trans tape whenever I can stand it. I’ve finally figure out how to minimise skin damage (allergic reactions, blisters, tears) when taping but it still means having to take breaks and wear a bra. Those days are more and more hellish these days and I try to tape more and more. But it’s not a long-term solution by far.

I swear, on days where I can tape, my eyes light up different.

Why saving up has been difficult

I’ve been trying to save up. I’m actually very good at saving but the past 5 years life has repeatedly kicked my partner and myself in the teeth, financially speaking. So our savings have been fairly depleted. Furthermore, I’ve not been able to find work since summer 2023 because my industry (tech) is a heaping dumpster fire. I’m working on ways to earn money again, possibly going back to school to become a therapist, and I volunteer at a humantarian aid org. My partner can keep us going but, like I said, there’s not much we can put aside and since they’re trans as well we have 2x top surgery to save up for.

We have recently moved to Spain where top surgery can be accessed fairly easily privately but it still doesn’t come cheap. So, I’m doing what learning to code has taught me is the right thing to do and what my developer friends are always telling me is important: I am asking for help. I feel incredibly uncomfortable doing it, but I understand it is necessary if I want to live fully instead of just barely existing, trying to constantly hide my body and causing pain and skin damage. I’ll spare you the photos of the blisters tape can give me.

How you can help

Thanks to people’s kindness we’ve already made it a decent way towards my goal, but this has been over the course of almost 2 whole years and there’s still some way to go.

So if you can comfortably afford to contribute, please do. If you can’t, then I understand. I really do. I’ve not been able to give to many mutual aid funds lately either. But either way, I would like to ask you to please share my link with others.

Thank you so much!

Cheers,

Kai (he/they)