Help Me Get a Breast Reduction & Reclaim My Life❤️‍

Hi, I’m Bethany, and I’m reaching out with something that’s not easy to ask - but is deeply needed. I’m raising funds to hopefully allow myself to get a private breast reduction, a surgery that would genuinely transform my life.

I’m currently a 42JJ, and while some people joke about it, living in this body is far from a blessing. My chest causes chronic back, neck, and shoulder pain that is constant. I struggle to find clothes that fit properly, bras dig into my skin (often to the point of welts and bruising) and simple things like walking, playing with my toddler, or even sleeping can leave me exhausted. Exercise - which could help with weight loss - is incredibly difficult and painful.

The NHS has refused to refer me for surgery numerous times due to my BMI, even though my breast size is a huge factor keeping me from being able to move freely and lose weight. It’s a catch 22, and it’s exhausting.

On top of that, I have recently been diagnosed with both Fibromyalgia and Sjögren’s syndrome, an autoimmune condition that causes chronic fatigue and joint pain, and for over a decade I’ve also struggled with trichotillomania (a hair-pulling disorder), which has left me with a patchy buzzcut. Between the physical symptoms, the pain, and the body image struggles, even just leaving the house can be incredibly overwhelming.

I never expected to actually make one of these pages, and honestly I still don’t expect anything to come of it. But the truth is: I’m desperate and unsure what else to do. My quality of life is so impacted at this point that asking for help feels like the only option left.

My friends - who’ve seen firsthand how much this affects me - were the ones who encouraged me to take this step. They know I wouldn’t ask unless I truly needed it. And the truth is, I do.

This isn’t about vanity. This is about comfort, mobility, and being able to show up for myself and my son without chronic pain dragging me down. A breast reduction would be life-changing: it would let me move more, sleep better, be a better parent and finally feel some peace in my own body.

If you’re able to help: either by donating, sharing, or even just sending a few kind words - I’d be endlessly grateful. Every little bit brings me closer to relief, freedom, and a version of myself I’ve been fighting to reach.

Thank you for reading.

With love and honesty,

Bethany xxx