Help Me Escape DV, Dysfunction and Rebuild

I am a survivor of repeated and compounded abuse, and the environment I am in now is unsafe and unsustainable. For the past two years, I have been living in a situation that has taken a serious toll on my health and well-being. Since the breakup five months ago, I have been trying to leave my ex's household and find a job. I did not want to go public with this, and it was not me who called the police—neighbors and contractors who heard the conflict did. The conflicts and abuse have been physical; I have been abandoned in a car many times and manipulated with threats of homelessness and having my medical savings taken away. Many steps of this process have made it difficult to leave safely. Just one week after the breakup, I lost my job—partly because I lost EEOC protection, and partly from interference from my ex. I am struggling to function and find purpose, as my attempts to leave are constantly sabotaged by circumstances outside of my control.

My savings—originally set aside for medical needs and a car—are now at risk as I try to escape this household. Every plan I make is met with manipulation, control, or new obstacles that leave me feeling even more isolated and afraid.

The emotional and psychological impact of this experience has left me with deep grief and worsened PTSD—much of it rooted not only in abuse but in the trauma of having witnessed suicide. Despite asking my ex to honor his promises and help me transition safely, I have only faced more threats and non-cooperation. I am now at a critical point and I must leave.

I do have a plan and a safe place to go, but I need support to get there. I need help covering moving costs, basic supplies, and possibly a few driving lessons now that I finally have my permit. This support would allow me to protect the small amount of savings I have left and use it to work toward long-term stability and self-sufficiency.

Your support will help me break free from this cycle of abuse and finally begin to heal. Every contribution will go directly toward helping me relocate, secure basic necessities, and build a foundation for a safer, healthier future.

Those who know me know I haven’t been dealt an easy hand for many years. I've fought hard to survive each step of the way and adjust again and again, and my goal now is simple: to finally grow roots, heal, and build a life where I am no longer constantly surviving or living in disparity.

Thank you for reading my story and considering a donation to help me reclaim my life. I also kindly ask that you keep my story discreet if you choose to share or discuss it, as I am trying to avoid further conflict or retaliation while I take these steps toward safety. I believe this is truly the final step to liberate myself from the residual effects of many hardships I’ve endured over the past 5-6 years.