Hello my name is Amber. I'm reaching out for help, because I have honestly run out of options.

 

My former partner of 7yrs is forcing me to flee the home we searched for and moved into to build a future together. In the months since the move, my ex began seeking others for sexual fulfillment as I'm physically unable to be intimate due to surgical treatments for uterine cancer (one of the reasons for our move: better cancer treatment care for myself). At the same time, I was on leave from my work as an educator for radiation therapy, when my employer ended my telecommute agreement. I am now jobless, and have exhausted my disability benefits. Since June, I have been applying to every position I am qualified for, in addition to hundreds of remote work positions outside my sector, with no results beyond a few interviews.

 

Meanwhile, I have been subjected to my ex’s violent, rage-filled outbursts, emotionally manipulative tactics (such as threatening to self-harm), and other harmful acts (such as an absolute refusal to drive me anywhere). As I am medically unable to drive, I have been dependent on my ex for transport. They began denying me this months prior to our breakup, which has impacted my ability to seek gainful employment, access medical treatments, and simply buy essentials for myself like food and medicine. They tell me they are “not obligated to do so”, and stating it was a ‘privilege I lost and took for granted’, since I was 'choosing' to not meet their sexual needs.

 

Still prior to our break up, they began “seeing someone”, all while having me believe we were working on our relationship. The day of our breakup (Oct 3rd), they shared that this person expressed interest in having a sexual relationship with them. They also went on to say that none of the acts of love and affection I have offered over the years ever mattered to them, since it was not what they wanted. They have accused me of making them suffer being ‘forcibly celibate, all as I dealt with the reality of invasive and debilitating medical procedures.

 

They have been forcing me to leave our home frequently to present the illusion they live alone, and have been moving my belongings in places to be hidden or inaccessible to me; this does include a lot of the items and materials I have been using to make online sales and commissions, which have been my only source of meager income. They say they can do this since the house is in their name, and they are “not obligated to give me a work space”.

 

They have been more vitriolic than ever, as I am unable to relocate as fast as they desire. Due to several months without stable employment, I cannot provide proof of income to show I can afford rent anywhere-- something I could have managed if they had not refused transportation. I have a potential place to move to, but it’s availability is as far out as February 2022-- and given how things have been escalating over the past month I do not see them being reasonable and am fearing my safety.

 

I plan on using the money that is raised here to help pay for a more immediate living space (deposit and rent), cover expenses like moving/storage, utilities, and acquire essential living furnishings (bed).

 

I appreciate any help I do receive, it really means the most to me more than anyone can imagine.