Please help me leave an abusive marriage for good by finalizing my divorce from well-known “Alt Right leader” Richard Spencer. My goal is to establish longterm safety and security for our two very young children and for myself. My legal fees incurred in these ongoing divorce proceedings are in the tens of thousands of dollars and counting. My financials means are modest and disappearing quickly. Furthermore, my residence and job are both at the mercy of a Spencer family member. Statements have been made about leaving me—and the children—homeless and jobless. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
In January 2009, I met a charming man from a good Southern family. His social media and parental home were filled with photographs featuring him and his relatives standing next to then-presidential candidate Ron Paul. My new acquaintance had good things to say about his former girlfriends of diverse backgrounds—a sign of maturity, I thought. He mostly read books about business and finance, described himself as a Libertarian, and had even previously dated an operative in the Ron Paul movement. We both had graduate degrees in similar fields from top universities in Canada and the U.S., respectively. He was articulate but a bit shy, well traveled and well read, as well as handsome.
His name was Richard Spencer. To assume that this man would become politically radicalized in the public eye just a few years down the road was beyond my wildest imagination.
We got married in August 2010 and began my emigration process from Canada to the U.S. I uprooted my busy, but comfortable life, quit my corporate job of several years, and moved from a Canadian city of several million to a tiny and beautiful mountainous American town in the middle of nowhere.
Soon I was isolated from my family and friends, became enmeshed with the Spencers and financially dependent, lost my interests and, ultimately, myself. My dream of building a family and a future gradually turned into a surreal nightmare. The only consistent aspect of my married life was the chaos.
As Richard Spencer’s politics became more extreme, so did his private life. This was a marriage filled with emotional abuse and domestic violence, including an assault when I was pregnant with our first child. Saying “no”—whether about minor household issues or major ideological questions—had serious consequences.
For a long time, I could not understand why this was happening. I was being told it was all my fault no matter what I did, and, above all, I felt profoundly ashamed. Few people knew, and some of those who knew—enabled. Gradually, I educated myself about trauma bonding , got stronger, and filed for divorce. Despite this, I continue having serious concerns about my safety and well-being.
According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, it takes the target of abuse the average of seven times to leave a violent relationship before leaving for good. Please help me make it FOR GOOD by offsetting some of my mounting legal fees incurred through the ongoing divorce proceedings. My financial means are modest and disappearing quickly. I seek to become the sovereign woman I once was and to ensure the safety and security of our two very young children. Thank you kindly.
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