UPDATE!!!!! I am now divorced! I think I'll leave this up for a bit so I can post a couple updates on my book
Update- I just wanted to clarify that I filed for divorce and escaped with my children from Stewart in February 2018 after two years of planning-actually hired a lawyer back in 2017. I put the GFM up after J6 because after he was shown to have participated, I felt safer posting it, knowing that he was not only in a media spotlight but also because he had moved to Texas (which is a pretty long jog from Montana, where I live). I had actually briefly posted one in 2018 but got scared and took it down. I just wanted to clarify as the wording on the most recent Washington Post piece makes it sound like I filed for divorce after January 6, 2021. I didn't leave when things got hot. I left when he was at a high point in his career and was seen as a law-abiding, albeit, maverick lawyer on the right.
Anyway- back to the original post below
I have been legally separated and trying to complete the divorce process with my now infamous soon-to-be ex-husband, Stewart Rhodes, for over four and half years now.
My case has been sealed, and I am currently not allowed to discuss it publicly., however, I can say that my former law firm dropped me (rightfully, I suppose) as a client since I could not keep current with regular payments to them. I burned quickly through my initial $5,000 down payment/retainer and racked up well over $10,000 fairly quickly without ever coming close to finalizing the divorce or reaching any sort of permanent financial or custodial agreement.
[Update; I do now have a lawyer!}
It's certainly not easy to find a lawyer willing to go head to head against a person who is not only a graduate of Yale Law but also commands their own private army, as well as having access to a team of equally infamous attorneys surrounding him; nonetheless, I am confident that somewhere out there is an advocate willing to be my huckleberry. (update; found one)
I still have four school-age children at home and the experience of switching over from a completely isolated lifestyle to becoming active thriving members of the community for my kids and I has run the gamut emotion-wise. It has been at times; bumpy, scary, exhilarating, and daunting, but all of it has taken a lot of work, diligence and a bit more tenacity than I thought I possessed. Some of the process of re-joining life (think applying for kids' social security numbers, birth certificates, school, joining sports programs) has been costly and time-consuming and also been about three years' worth of paperwork, but we've gotten through it.
For obvious reasons, I am very very hesitant to go public with this, but after a whole lot of thought, I feel I just can not move forward any other way. I am feeling a bit emboldened by the spotlight now on the STBX, and without going into specifics I'm hoping that keeps anything too crazy from happening.
Though I can't talk about the details of my marriage here, I can tell you that it was likely about exactly what you're picturing, but probably quite a bit weirder.
It also seems like a lot of money to ask for, but judging alone from the cost of the first round, I think that is the cost I should expect.
My funding goals:
1. Pay back legal bills.
2. New super hero attorney.
3. Finalize the divorce.
4. I would also use some donations for basic needs; as, of course, have had no child support for several years, getting caught up with utilities, basic living or car repairs - my truck, Ole' Bessie has 265,000 miles on her and needs a bit of help now and then (update; ole' Bessie has passed away to happy farm truck land- but I do have a really beautiful, in great shape, 1994 jeep on a long term loan and I am extremely grateful for it.)
There are no words I can think of to fully describe how grateful I would be if my kids and I were able to leave the old world fully behind; to be legally divorced. I would be able to move forward without still feeling shackled.
Honestly, the idea that he can still use the phrase, "my wife" makes me sick to my stomach.