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Help me avoid being homeless due to abusive fam

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TLDR; I’m trans, my family doesn’t like it, they became physically abusive, and now they are kicking me out and I’ll be homeless.

Hi, my name is Astrid, I am a 21 year old trans woman who has been living with her grandparents and father for some time now. Well, I don’t really do this often so I’m not really sure what to put here, I’ve actually never made one of these things.

Anyway, I came out to my family a while back, and of course none of them are supportive and haven’t been. My grandparents are pretty conservative (VERY conservative) Christian types and my father is basically alt-right. A while back, I talked to my former therapist about how they weren’t supportive, and she suggested that it would be most healthy for me to leave and get them out of my lives if they can’t come to grips and accept me, of course I believe in fairness so I wanted to give them time, but that would be my intention if they never made any improvements.

Well, recently, my grandfather became more aware of the fact that I may end up trying to get them out of my life, and since he found this out he began verbally attacking and harassing me every time he saw me, told me he was going to kick me out of the house etc. He even threatened to use a blowtorch on me to “prove a point” idk if he was serious but he actually has always been a violent person towards me so I wouldn’t be surprised.

It recently became pretty sure that I am going to be kicked out, and I work a low wage job and don’t have much money at all, nor do I have a car or anything like that, the walkability is trash where I live (rural Virginia) so I have to rely on others to drive me to work. Plus I pay out of pocket for my hormones because I don’t have health insurance and I do have some bills that I have to pay myself such as my phone bill.

My mom recently started to accept me which was amazing, but almost as soon as she did, she got arrested. Yeah, she shouldn’t have been engaged in those sorts of activities but I still lost my only caring family member.

Then, last night, things escalated with my family at home. My grandfathers verbal assaults were far more intense, and when I made the mistake of talking back even slightly, he began telling me he was going to “break my jaw” and then lept at me and tried to attack me physically. Luckily, the rest of my family got involved because they heard me mention calling the police and they pulled him away from me, all while we were yelling at each other.
My dad was trying to get everyone out so he could “talk to (me) alone” which made me think he was going to be sympathetic. When he did get us alone, he began screaming at me and threatening violence against me himself. Keep in mind, he’s always been violent. He’s always engaged in the use of pretty hard drugs and has spent most of his life in prison, not to shame felons and addicts or make them sound like they are inherently violent, but my father is. After I threatened to call the cops on him (he’s on probation) he grabbed me, ripped my shirt, and threw me violently.

This all went on for several hours while I tried to get away and hide in my room, to no avail, but after it was over, they all confirmed that they are kicking me out possibly as soon as today at any moment. They openly told me they don’t care if I’m homeless.

So yeah, I’ve never made one of these before, the cover photo is literally just my selfie because I don’t know what you’re supposed to put, and the goal amount looks high but I didn’t know what the proper amount should be so I just did the math of how much money I’d need for my current plans and estimated a bit higher based on potential extra expenses. Im not actually expecting that much, but any amount helps.

This is my current plan, I’ve got friends in San Diego that can keep me safe for a bit, I’m losing my home and job by having to leave here, but I have no other option. I won’t be able to stay where I’m going for very long (potentially only a few weeks) so after that my options are San Diego or Burlington. Let me be clear about what the donations are for:

1. Money to get settled in an apartment somewhere with walkability so I can keep a stable job

2. (If not somewhere walkable) Potentially a cheap used car I can use to get myself to a job.

3. Making sure I can pay for my medicines, which I pay out of pocket for.

4. Covering things such as my phone bill (this is lower on my priority list, if I can’t do it then I can possibly handle cutting my service off)

5. Making sure I can afford to eat and drink

6. Getting a plane ticket to where I need to move to

7. Making sure I have sufficient funds to survive while I get a new job in the location I move to.

Sorry for the long read, there’s a lot going on here, more than I could possibly type out, but I appreciate anything you can donate to help. Thank you so much

TLDR; I’m trans, my family has began to hate me, they are physically abusive now, and I’m going to be homeless soon.

Organizer and beneficiary

Astrid Nyström
Organizer
Max Meadows, VA
David Christian
Beneficiary

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