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Help me and high needs baby through divorce

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My husband recently filed for divorce in May and left me with very little money. Any financial help at all would be greatly appreciated and would mean the world to me and my 17 month old daughter who has high needs. All donations given will go to legal fees to fight for what’s best for me and my daughter.

A little bit of background:

I have been the primary caregiver of my daughter and have been the one taking care of her high needs. For at least 11 months straight I was pulling all-nighters/getting 2-3 hours of sleep at night due to her severe sleep/eating issues. I would spend hours each day (for months) in a dark room helping her due to her sensory issues. We began to call it “my dark room” as it was my prison…I couldn’t even move around or breath too heavily for hours. This led to my severe sleep deprivation and health issues. I would go to my husband in the middle of the night while pulling all nighters and beg him to help for just an hour. He would say “you know better than this (to wake him),” “this is the ultimate sign of disrespect,” “you’re on your own,” “I’m the man of the house,” “I’m a working man.” He witnessed me breaking down and falling to my knees begging for help. He saw me suffering…having constant panic attacks from sleep deprivation and caring for her high needs, yet was indifferent. Though he did do the bare minimum during the day (and did help during paternity leave), he needed to do more to help at night. Especially since our baby was not a “normal” baby and had issues. I saw therapists, and we went to marriage counseling for a few sessions. The therapists and marriage counselor said he should help more and that it takes two to have a child. I experienced mental & emotional abuse. I couldn’t even have opinions on a lot of things. I reached a breaking point due to a combination of my daughter’s issues and how my husband was treating me. So I began getting upset at my husband, who claimed my reactions were “ultimate signs of disrespect” and unacceptable. He didn’t even fight for me when his brother and sister-in-law, who lived down the street from us, refused to help me and Elsie. I actually begged him to ask them to please help me…since they didn’t care about my cries for help. When he finally did, Jared said they did not want to help and that they didn’t like me. Even though I babysat for them all the time and have an album of photos with their child, invited them over for dinners and movie nights, had their dog stay at my house, and had always been very sweet to them. He would not bring up these things. Instead, he told me it was my fault people treated me bad. He would put his family first instead of our own family unit/Elsie and my needs. Jared and I continued to get into arguments concerning helping me with baby, as well as many many other things. He put his hands on me and was aggressive. Even while I was holding baby.

As of right now, my daughter and I are still having a hard time. She is needing to see two specialists. She is still nursing multiple times a day and needs my help sleeping at night.

Legal fees are extremely expensive. My retainer fee is already being used up fast. If I cannot afford to keep paying the fees, my attorney can withdraw from my case. I am asking for help from anyone and everyone who is able. I’m eternally grateful for family who have already helped me so much financially! Any money donated will be paid toward attorney fees to fight for what is best for baby and me.

I will be forever grateful.

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    Aly A
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    Austin, TX

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