My mom Kathy has always been my best friend and my greatest supporter. We grew up as a family of eight, but there were five kids in the home, and my mom made sure we had food on the table and clothes to wear, often sacrificing her own needs so that my siblings and I could have what we needed. She started working at just 14 years old and has spent her life caring for others—whether as a waitress, a nutritionist at retirement homes, a big-rig trucker for 20 years, or caring for kids with disabilities. Now, at 78, she lives alone in Medford, Oregon, and my sister is taking the lead these days to help her as much as she can. Despite my sister’s hard work, my mom is now living below the poverty line, relying on social security that barely covers her rent and leaves little for food or other essentials.

Recently, her financial situation has become even more difficult. High power bills over the last three months have left her considering cutting off her electricity, and she’s already unplugging appliances and electronics to save money. She’s behind on her rent, owes back taxes, and is worried about losing her phone and internet—her only connections to the outside world. My mom is incredibly proud and always thinks there are others who need help more than she does, but I know how much she’s struggling. Her health no longer allows her to work, and she no longer drives, so she depends on my sister for rides and support.

What sparked this fundraiser was a moment that shook me. I speak to my mom every day, but recently, I couldn’t get a hold of her for five days. She had been overwhelmed with anxiety and withdrew, and when I finally reached her through my sister, my mom told me about going without her phone and electricity. She was in bed, feeling overwhelmed and isolated. This moment made me realize how urgently she needs a break—a cushion to help her catch up and breathe, and to start exploring local support networks.

Even small donations can make a big difference. A dollar can help her buy canned goods, three dollars can buy canned tuna, and ten dollars can purchase meat, food items, or toiletries she often goes without. Larger amounts will help with bills and utilities, giving her the relief she needs. Since I’m not able to be there in person, this fundraiser is the best way I can help her. Any support you can give will go directly to helping my mom stay safe, comfortable, and connected. Thank you for reading our story and for considering a donation to help my mom during this difficult time.

I currently live in Palm Springs, California, and will be coordinating with my sister to assist my mom who lives in Medford, Oregon.

(photo of the the puppy Jock, my sister's dog, and mom)