Hello, my name is Jay. I am currently 26 years old.

Two years ago, I met my current wife (32 years old) online on Twitch. We both watched the same streamer, and were talking with one another in his discord. We connected instantly over text, playing Phasmophobia together and with some friends. Despite living in different countries, our feeling very quickly developped for eachother, and since the start we have been on call every day and night. We met in person after a month and we were so in love. After that, I have visited her a few times. During these visits I developped an amazing relationship, not just with her, but also with her two daughters (10 and 8).

Both my wife and her children have lived through immense trauma from her relationship/their father. Her eldest daughter is autistic and currently home-schooled due to this, and struggles a lot. Her youngest struggles with anxiety attacks and has therapy at school for this. My wife herself is disabled. She has been signed off work due to this. She lost feeling in one of her legs and has a very weak spine. Due to this she is home-bound most days. She is also on the list for autism, and lives with serious anxiety/mental health challenges.

I myself am also autistic and have physical limitations. I have my own trauma's from past relationships, but due to this we often find support and comfort in one another.

Over a year into our relationship, it became clear that visiting for 2 weeks every few months was not an option anymore. My wife, 'our' daughter and me all struggled mentally when we had to say goodbye, and would struggle until I would visit again.

Due to this, I chose to give up my job, leave behind my family and my country. I made the deciaion to move to the UK and be with them. From the moment I arrived, I became a full-time stepdad — caring for the girls every day and supporting them, as well as my wife. Their mental health has made significant growth since I moved over, and we can sparingly enjoy days out in the park. I managed to rebuild a safe and loving home for them in a house full of awful memories.

We finally got married this June. It was a beautiful day, and one of the happiest days of our lives. But it was also bittersweet, as my family couldn’t attend the wedding. We couldn’t afford to bring them over or help towards the costs. We weren't able to afford a photographer either, so a lot of the day was lost to just memory.

And now my fiancé visa is about to run out, and I will have to apply for a Partner Visa in order to stay with my wife and stepdaughters. The costs of this visa, alongside the mandatory NHS surcharge, is high. Because I am not allowed to work on my current visa, neither in the UK or my home country, I haven't been able to save. My wife isn't able to work, so the benefit's she receives is what we have to live on. With our medical costs draining our savings, as I am not insured on the NHS currently, and my wife's mobility scooter had stopped working, we simply do not have all the funds to pay for this Visa.

If I can’t raise the money we are short by the end of August, I will most likely be forced to leave the UK.

This would mean that:

- I will be torn away from my wife and stepdaughters

- I would have to leave my wife to struggle, having to go back to taking care of the children alone, despite her disabilities

- Cause deep emotional harm to all four of us

- Potentially leave me homeless and without money back in my home country

We are a loving, committed family who have been through so much already. This visa is the key to keeping us together, safe, and stable.

Every donation, no matter how small, brings us closer to securing our future as a family. All donations will go towards the Visa.

From the bottom of our hearts — thank you for reading, sharing, and supporting us