Help Jim Incavo’s Family

My name is Sue Bell, and I’m lucky enough to call myself a friend of Jim and Margie Incavo. If you didn’t know Jim, you missed out on a truly good-hearted, joyful guy. I knew Jim from high school (a million years ago), and like a lot of high school friends, we lost touch for many years. One of the social media sites brought us back in touch, and while I hadn’t seen Jim in over a decade, what he did many years ago when my youngest was in the hospital, will tell you exactly what kind of person he was.

As I mentioned, Jim and I caught up on one of the social media sites. He knew that my son had been hospitalized for a serious infection. It was a scary time for my family. We were in my son’s hospital room around the 2nd day of his stay, when into the room blew this hurricane of joy, laughter, and warmth. Jim showed up. Like he always did, he showed up. He brought a bag of treats for my son; he brought jokes, even going so far as to convince my older two sons that he was a doctor. He was wearing that bright tie-dye t-shirt he liked to wear, and his smile and laughter brought us so much relief from the stress of the situation. Keep in mind, I hadn’t seen him for around fifteen years. But he showed up.

That was Jim - always showing up. Always offering to help, even after a brain tumor took him out of work years ago. He had absolutely no filter, and could make you laugh even in the most inappropriate situations. He had a heart of gold - played Santa Claus for kids, loved game night with family and friends, and, like I keep saying, he was always there if you needed help.

Let me tell you about Margie, Jim’s wife. She is one of the the kindest, most caring giving persons I know. Margie will go out of her way to help others, no matter what they need. She and Jim raised their three wonderful kids here in Rochester, throwing the best Halloween parties, best outdoor summer movie nights and teaching their kids the importance of learning to look for the good in other people. They were there, always, for their family, their friends and their community.

There isn’t enough space here to tell you of all the ways that Jim and Margie would reach out to their friends and neighbors when there was trouble. When my Mom passed away, they were there a few weeks later, making me laugh, reminding me that that life goes on, and that the comfort of friends can cover you when you are at your lowest.

The hardest part about telling you this, is having to tell you that we lost Jim today. His battle with Covid was a difficult one, and he fought long and hard. Jim, I know that you are watching over your family, I know that you are not in pain any more, but you are missed.

I’m asking if you would be so kind as to contribute something to assist Margie and her family in this really difficult time. I know she is a proud woman and would never ever ask for help - that’s just who she is, but Margie needs our assistance right now. And if all you can do is offer a kind word, a prayer or some good energy, that’s good too,

We lost a good guy, a truly good guy.