Help Flynn pay for top surgery and hysterectomy

Thank you for looking at my GoFundMe, no matter how you ended up here, thank you for having enough interest to arrive here. My name is Flynn. I came out as a trans man in August of 2017 at the ripe age of 29 after two and a half decades of internal identity struggles. I came out to my partner, my mom, and my sister, Michelle who is so graciously managing this GoFundMe for me.

The issue was never whether or not my family would accept me, in fact, they took it in stride and when I told my mom she had the most nonchalant reaction of “You’re still my kid and I still love you as such. My only worry is the hardships that come with being transgender.” My nieces took it amazingly well, and I quote, “Oh cool!” and immediately started calling me their uncle to their friends.

Unfortunately, my mom and biggest supporter by far, was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in August 2018 and it had spread all over her body. In less than four short months, she passed in December 2018. I struggled a lot with her death, especially since she was super involved with my transition in the beginning. She went with me to all of my pre-HRT appointments, and was there for my first testosterone shot. When we would go out, or I would take her to her appointments, she never missed an opportunity to introduce me as Flynn, her son. She said it so proudly, and I miss her and her validation so much. I still have my other family who are super supportive, but there’s just something much stronger and deeper with the acceptance of a parent that no one else can really match.

I have so many regrets in life, but one of the biggest was that I didn’t come out sooner, if only to have more time with my mom being out as her son. She was so proud of me, and so thrilled to have been part of my transition in the beginning steps. In addition to transitioning for myself, I am also transitioning for her. I miss her so much, and in a way transitioning has become a way for me to feel closer to her memory. But most importantly, my gender dysphoria has become a major issue for me.

I’ve struggled with severe gender dysphoria for years and years, but since accepting myself and coming out, it’s gotten worse. The two causes of this deal with my chest and my internal sex organs. I want top surgery, and I want a complete hysterectomy. My chest is a daily reminder and source of dysphoria. And even though I am medicated for depression and anxiety, those two things attached to my chest have become a major source of my daily emotional problems. And that pesky uterus just happens to kick me while I’m down for a week every month. A lot of trans guys have their periods lessen or even stop during HRT, but unfortunately that isn’t the case for me.

Depression and anxiety has been with me since I was very little. I don’t really remember a time where I didn’t have some form of it. When I finally made the decision that I had to get help, I reached a very very dark point. I came close to suicide multiple times, but after seeing the pain that came from friends who did the deed, I told myself that I would never do it personally. Unfortunately, that only went so far, and it was finally time to reach out. That’s when I was also diagnosed with CPTSD. This was a major shock to me, despite having childhood trauma and emotionally abusive relationship trauma. I don’t want my dysphoria to continue to contribute and exacerbate these complex mental health issues.

The funds raised from this GoFundMe will be used for the out-of-pocket costs associated with getting top surgery first, and then if I’m so lucky to reach my goal, towards my full hysterectomy. My minimum out-of-pocket cost for top surgery, with my insurance, will be roughly $3600. For the hysterectomy this tacks on an additional $3440 This does not include any unforeseen additional costs, or costs associated with being out of work for an extended period of time. I’m looking to get both surgeries done somewhat locally, so that I can avoid long distance travel and hotel costs. Every cent raised will be going towards the surgeries themselves and additional costs related to them such as recovery.

Thank you again for taking the time to look at my page and for your consideration in donating. Thank you in advance to those who do donate. If you are unable to donate, please take a moment to share this GoFundMe.