Help Eli fund life-saving surgery.
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My name is Eli, and I need a surgery that I can’t afford to save my life.
I’m 23, I’m a bartender. I have a wonderful boyfriend, good selection of friends and a roof over my head. I recovered from an eating disorder last year. I worked my arse off during the pandemic and was promoted into management. I am at the stage in life where most people start planning for the future.
Instead, I’ve found that my life has stalled. Crippled by gender dysphoria, I have lost the ability to find joy in anything I do. I am losing my life to something that can be cured.
In short: my obscenely large chest and the dysphoria it brings, cause me immense mental and physical pain. It’s an all consuming depression and an unrelenting anxiety all at once.
I have battled with my fair share of mental health issues, and with proper healthcare I have overcome those obstacles. Therapy allowed me to realise who I am, but it cannot ease the pain that the incongruence between my body and brain brings me.
We all know how long NHS waiting lists are. After 24 months, in January 2020, I started testosterone therapy and while the small changes have allowed me to feel more like myself, I am no closer to joining the waiting list for top surgery, even though it will be the healthcare that ultimately saves my life. Right now it is nothing but a far off dream.
I feel like I have most of the tools I need to build myself a good life, but what good are tools without the most basic of foundations: the alignment of body and mind.
It has taken me a great deal of time to get to this point as I had believed for so long I could do it alone. I am learning to accept that the community of friends and family I have rallying around me want to help me. So I am finally asking for it.
I have set this up for those who are able to financially help me transition. If you chose to donate, I want you to know how incredibly grateful I am. This surgery is the only thing which will allow me to live my life with joy, security and authenticity. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, thank you.
I’m 23, I’m a bartender. I have a wonderful boyfriend, good selection of friends and a roof over my head. I recovered from an eating disorder last year. I worked my arse off during the pandemic and was promoted into management. I am at the stage in life where most people start planning for the future.
Instead, I’ve found that my life has stalled. Crippled by gender dysphoria, I have lost the ability to find joy in anything I do. I am losing my life to something that can be cured.
In short: my obscenely large chest and the dysphoria it brings, cause me immense mental and physical pain. It’s an all consuming depression and an unrelenting anxiety all at once.
I have battled with my fair share of mental health issues, and with proper healthcare I have overcome those obstacles. Therapy allowed me to realise who I am, but it cannot ease the pain that the incongruence between my body and brain brings me.
We all know how long NHS waiting lists are. After 24 months, in January 2020, I started testosterone therapy and while the small changes have allowed me to feel more like myself, I am no closer to joining the waiting list for top surgery, even though it will be the healthcare that ultimately saves my life. Right now it is nothing but a far off dream.
I feel like I have most of the tools I need to build myself a good life, but what good are tools without the most basic of foundations: the alignment of body and mind.
It has taken me a great deal of time to get to this point as I had believed for so long I could do it alone. I am learning to accept that the community of friends and family I have rallying around me want to help me. So I am finally asking for it.
I have set this up for those who are able to financially help me transition. If you chose to donate, I want you to know how incredibly grateful I am. This surgery is the only thing which will allow me to live my life with joy, security and authenticity. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, thank you.
Organizer
Rhiannon Dowell
Organizer
England