Update - August 8, 2018:
Two weeks have passed.
I am still in shock and can not believe that he is really gone.
Despite all treatments, heart felt prayers, and the incredible fight that Cody put up, he passed away on July 25th surrounded by the most important people in his life.
Cody is no longer uncomfortable. He is no longer struggling. He is no longer in pain.
I hope that everyone who prayed and/or donated knows that you truly made a difference. Although the treatments weren't able to save Cody's life, please know that he truly appreciated all the kindness sent his way. Like similar situations, Cody's family was faced with many expenses after his passing. Maria, Cody's wife, will be supporting their family independently. I want to reassure every donor that your money was not wasted or unappreciated.
I send my deepest gratitude to every single soul who helped Cody fight Angiosarcoma and I thank you all for helping his family and friends get through the hardest part of the journey.
Please continue to pray for his loved ones.
To my brother-in-law,
I have been at a loss of words for weeks now. Actually, I've been at a loss of words for the past three years. There's nothing I, nor anyone, can say to make things feel right. I keep asking myself how this happened because I just really don't understand.
I want you to know that I will always think of you when I eat a raised chocolate from the bakery. I will always think of you as I see a spaceship in the night sky (because we both know that they're 100% real). I'm always going to think of you when All Time Low or any other alternative band plays on the radio. You'll be the first one I think of when I finally decide to get a car wash. (I'm sure you're scolding me for how bad I need one right now). And I will always think of you (and thank you a million times) when I look into Jaxon's eye.
There always going to be something that makes me think of you. I guess that's what happens when you lose someone so important to you.
I'm not sure if this makes me naive or just hopeful... but I never thought we would really lose you. I mean, everyone dies. But I just figured you would beat it. I was so convinced that a miracle was going to happen. It had to. It wasn't fair that you were given the shit hand. It's not fair that Maria and Jaxon had to lose you. It's not fair that anyone had to say goodbye to you.
But do you want to know what I am thankful for? I am thankful that you had 26 beautiful years on Earth. I'm thankful that you were able to grow up with a brother, sister, cousins and friends who loved you so deeply. I'm thankful you met and fell in love with Maria and eventually created such a beautiful little boy. I am beyond thankful that I was lucky enough to be your sister-in-law. That is something I will hold on to forever.
Rest easy, Cody.
Thank you for taking the time out of your day to visit my Go Fund Me page!
As many of you know, back in June of 2015, Cody Reffitt was diagnosed with stage 4 Cardiac Angiosarcoma at the age of 23. Angiosarcoma is an extremely rare and aggressive cancer in the lining of the blood vessels. Unfortunately, the cancer has now spread.
Cody is an independent and strong individual who would never seek help from others but ultimately their medical, travel, and everyday expenses far outweigh their families income. So I have taken it upon myself to reach out to others for support on Cody's behalf. Since his diagnosis, he has been unable to work. Along with this unexpected diagnosis, comes many unexpected expenses.
For some of you, this might be painful to read as it is also incredibly hard to write. Over the past three years, Cody has undergone three extremely aggressive chemotherapy courses along with radiation. In November 2016, he had a stent put into his superior vena cava and a pacemaker placed.
He just found out that chemotherapy has not been working. At the time of his diagnosis, the cancer had already metastasized to his lungs. Now, it has spread throughout his body causing crippling daily pain.
Doctors are strongly suggesting immunotherapy for Cody as this may be the last option. Unfortunately, insurance has denied the funds three times.
For the proposed one year immunotherapy treatment plan, which consists of a treatment every 3 weeks, will cost $150,000 out of pocket. In other words, immunotherapy will cost him $12,500 per month. With all previous funds spent towards other options, that amount of money is unrealistic.
Back in March of 2013, Cody's father, Ron Reffitt Jr. , passed away from Cardiac Angiosarcoma. Although doctors have not been able to find a mutation to prove that the cancer is genetic being that it is so rare, they highly suspect that it is. Cody is a father and husband. His 5-year-old son, Jaxon, doesn't deserve to grow up without his father. His wife, Maria, doesn't deserve to lose her husband. Cody doesn't deserve to lose this fight.
If you are unable to help financially, the most important thing you can do is continue to pray for a miracle.
Thank you for all your support.
- Mindi Draper
- Michelle Hill
- Mark Toteff
- Kim Willis
- C. Toteff Family
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