Help Claire and Oliver
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Hi, we are Claire and Oliver, two mid-twenties online content creators. Claire is a professional artist by the name of mysillycomics who makes comics and art and sells products she designs online. Oliver is a YouTuber, streamer, and voice actor by the name of UncleVO_. We are wanting to get Oliver out of a dangerous and unsafe situation, to a safe place in Illinois, Claire’s home state.
What is the Situation?
This will be split into two parts: one with Oliver’s words, and one with Claire’s words.
Oliver’s Part
Hi, this is Oliver. Throughout my life I have been abused both physically, mentally, and neglected by my family, by my parents especially. They have not only put both myself and my sibling in harm's way but themselves too with extremely heavy amounts of drug and alcohol abuse throughout our entire lives.
Currently I am living with my mom who at this time is abusing both. From what we understand she is taking a mixture of alcohol and opioids that has the capacity to kill her and it's horrifying. Nearly every night until morning she is screaming, rambling, stomping around the house and leaving that putrid smell of alcohol everywhere she goes, this is not new.
Many times in my life one parent will increasingly become more unstable with us in their life until a breaking point happens and then we swap to the next parent. This loop has continued for our entire lives. The last time this has happened my father locked me out of our house at 3 in the morning on one of the most dangerous streets in Washington for having a panic attack and I have not seen or talked with him since, and the time before that, my mom overdosed on heroin and nearly died in front of my sibling and I, that awful, horrible memory of her contorting body screaming herself back alive over and over will stay burned into my brain until the end of time. My mom is going down that path again and I am very, very scared. I cannot be a part of this loop anymore, not again.
Getting not just myself but my cat out of this environment is extremely important to me because my feeling of safety is decreasing every day that I am here, nearly all our food is rotting, the certainty of utilities like water is not at all stable, and there are multiple rooms that are disgusting beyond belief and with every attempt to clean it is immediately met with full plates of food being left out for weeks rotting and becoming an unliveable environment once again, and though I am grateful that my sibling has left safely to live with their friend it also has made it even harder being just myself dealing with this all.
There are four animals and a broken down house that I'm trying to take care of alone while my mom disappears for hours and hours without word and shows up in the middle of the night and as much as I love all these animals we cannot take them all and it hurts beyond words that we can't, but I can't keep doing this alone, I am exhausted and scared.
Thank you everyone for your time and care, I cannot put into words how much both Claire and I appreciate you all, thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Claire’s Part
Hi, this is Claire. I am Oliver’s partner, and we have been together for two years. I will leave most of the details to Oliver to write, as this is his story.
Things in his home life have never been that good, but as of the last few weeks it has been declining rapidly. With the discovery in early June that his mom is abusing drugs and alcohol again, it has made the house they share unsafe. While inebriated she becomes abusive, verbally berating Ollie for even the smallest of things. He doesn’t feel comfortable around her at all, only leaving his room when absolutely necessary.
The house itself is in a serious state of disarray, and in some rooms it is borderline squalor. There is only so much Ollie can do, as his mom heavily contributes to the mess and can undo all of the cleaning he’s done in a day’s time. It is unsanitary and not fit for living. It breaks my heart to see him like this. To see him exhausted from lack of sleep, anxious from never knowing what his mom will do or say, depressed because of the state of his house, all of it. Living in this is actively hurting him, physically and mentally. I can’t stand to see him in pain like this any longer.
All I want is for him to be safe and happy. He is the person I care about the most. I know that getting him and his cat to Illinois, away from the people that hurt him and towards a more stable support system, is the right thing to do. We want to have a home together, one that is safe, healthy, and full of love.
I will be straightforward about our income situation: the money I make from mysillycomics currently isn’t enough to sustain myself, much less two people. I am applying for remote jobs that will allow me to work from home on both mysillycomics as well as whatever job I am employed to do. When Ollie moves here and is settled, he will apply for jobs as well. We just need this fundraiser to get him out, get him safe, and get us a home.
Any help we receive will be greatly appreciated, from the bottom of our hearts.
What are the Goals?
The ultimate goal is to get Oliver and his cat and belongings away from his environment safely and permanently, to set up a stable living situation in Illinois with Claire, and to build a life together.
What is the Plan?
As of right now, the plan is:
We are shooting for a September-October move.
Breakdown of Costs
All funds received from this gofundme will go towards these things, and only these things. All estimates are made with the worst case scenario in mind. If it is possibly needed, it is covered here.
Even if the goal set is not met, any amount will help.
Please note that many of the actual costs will be date/circumstance dependent.
To address the wiggle room fund: we wish to approach the plan with the knowledge that anything can happen. Having a wiggle room fund allows us to be prepared.
Both of us are incredibly appreciative of your time, support, and care. Thank you for reading, and thank you for your help. We will post regular updates to keep you all in the loop. Thank you!
What is the Situation?
This will be split into two parts: one with Oliver’s words, and one with Claire’s words.
Oliver’s Part
Hi, this is Oliver. Throughout my life I have been abused both physically, mentally, and neglected by my family, by my parents especially. They have not only put both myself and my sibling in harm's way but themselves too with extremely heavy amounts of drug and alcohol abuse throughout our entire lives.
Currently I am living with my mom who at this time is abusing both. From what we understand she is taking a mixture of alcohol and opioids that has the capacity to kill her and it's horrifying. Nearly every night until morning she is screaming, rambling, stomping around the house and leaving that putrid smell of alcohol everywhere she goes, this is not new.
Many times in my life one parent will increasingly become more unstable with us in their life until a breaking point happens and then we swap to the next parent. This loop has continued for our entire lives. The last time this has happened my father locked me out of our house at 3 in the morning on one of the most dangerous streets in Washington for having a panic attack and I have not seen or talked with him since, and the time before that, my mom overdosed on heroin and nearly died in front of my sibling and I, that awful, horrible memory of her contorting body screaming herself back alive over and over will stay burned into my brain until the end of time. My mom is going down that path again and I am very, very scared. I cannot be a part of this loop anymore, not again.
Getting not just myself but my cat out of this environment is extremely important to me because my feeling of safety is decreasing every day that I am here, nearly all our food is rotting, the certainty of utilities like water is not at all stable, and there are multiple rooms that are disgusting beyond belief and with every attempt to clean it is immediately met with full plates of food being left out for weeks rotting and becoming an unliveable environment once again, and though I am grateful that my sibling has left safely to live with their friend it also has made it even harder being just myself dealing with this all.
There are four animals and a broken down house that I'm trying to take care of alone while my mom disappears for hours and hours without word and shows up in the middle of the night and as much as I love all these animals we cannot take them all and it hurts beyond words that we can't, but I can't keep doing this alone, I am exhausted and scared.
Thank you everyone for your time and care, I cannot put into words how much both Claire and I appreciate you all, thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Claire’s Part
Hi, this is Claire. I am Oliver’s partner, and we have been together for two years. I will leave most of the details to Oliver to write, as this is his story.
Things in his home life have never been that good, but as of the last few weeks it has been declining rapidly. With the discovery in early June that his mom is abusing drugs and alcohol again, it has made the house they share unsafe. While inebriated she becomes abusive, verbally berating Ollie for even the smallest of things. He doesn’t feel comfortable around her at all, only leaving his room when absolutely necessary.
The house itself is in a serious state of disarray, and in some rooms it is borderline squalor. There is only so much Ollie can do, as his mom heavily contributes to the mess and can undo all of the cleaning he’s done in a day’s time. It is unsanitary and not fit for living. It breaks my heart to see him like this. To see him exhausted from lack of sleep, anxious from never knowing what his mom will do or say, depressed because of the state of his house, all of it. Living in this is actively hurting him, physically and mentally. I can’t stand to see him in pain like this any longer.
All I want is for him to be safe and happy. He is the person I care about the most. I know that getting him and his cat to Illinois, away from the people that hurt him and towards a more stable support system, is the right thing to do. We want to have a home together, one that is safe, healthy, and full of love.
I will be straightforward about our income situation: the money I make from mysillycomics currently isn’t enough to sustain myself, much less two people. I am applying for remote jobs that will allow me to work from home on both mysillycomics as well as whatever job I am employed to do. When Ollie moves here and is settled, he will apply for jobs as well. We just need this fundraiser to get him out, get him safe, and get us a home.
Any help we receive will be greatly appreciated, from the bottom of our hearts.
What are the Goals?
The ultimate goal is to get Oliver and his cat and belongings away from his environment safely and permanently, to set up a stable living situation in Illinois with Claire, and to build a life together.
What is the Plan?
As of right now, the plan is:
- Pack up Oliver’s belongings and have a long distance moving company deliver them from Washington to Illinois. This includes a full queen-sized bed, desk, chair, computer, clothes, and other small things.
- Get Oliver and Tiger Fluff on a one-way flight from Seattle to Chicago.
- Move into an apartment in the northwest suburbs of Chicago, IL, an area Claire was born and raised in and knows well.
We are shooting for a September-October move.
Breakdown of Costs
All funds received from this gofundme will go towards these things, and only these things. All estimates are made with the worst case scenario in mind. If it is possibly needed, it is covered here.
Even if the goal set is not met, any amount will help.
Please note that many of the actual costs will be date/circumstance dependent.
To address the wiggle room fund: we wish to approach the plan with the knowledge that anything can happen. Having a wiggle room fund allows us to be prepared.
Both of us are incredibly appreciative of your time, support, and care. Thank you for reading, and thank you for your help. We will post regular updates to keep you all in the loop. Thank you!
Organizer
Claire Stastny
Organizer
Rolling Meadows, IL