I’m pretty sure Blane and Theresa are going to kill me for doing this, but I want to show them how much we all love and support their efforts to become parents. IVF is a long, tough journey both mentally and financially. While our calls, texts and messages help, maybe there is something more we can do to help ease the journey for them. Please donate if you can.
Here is their journey in Theresa’s own words (stolen from her Facebook): In light of National infertility awareness week and seeing so many others share their struggles and Stories, I thought I’d share our infertility story so far.
My husband Blane and I have been together, since our senior year of high school, in 2004, so 15 years together. We will have been married 6 year on Saturday, April 27th. I had always envisioned having children at a young age like my mom, so when we got married, I didn’t want to wait much longer. Our plan was to spend some time enjoying marriage, then try to start a family. Unfortunately that was Not Gods plan.
In the beginning we were just having fun and were more relaxed, not really tracking, hoping it would just happen for us naturally. After quite a few negative pregnancy test, we thought we really need to get more serious. I started using all sorts of ovulation apps and predictor kits hoping they would help us be sure we were on track. Unfortunately the ovulation kits and my cycles were all over the place...making it difficult and frustrating to track. We also did some additional alternative approaches to help: like acupuncture, multiple rounds of clomid cycles, specific diets, etc. As we were going through this, one-by-one our friends and family members started getting pregnant. This made the process even more heartbreaking and difficult....seeing them get what we so badly wanted. And the question “What’s wrong with me?” Started crossing my mind. Wondering why is everyone else getting pregnant and we weren’t. Was it ever gonna happen for us? This was all so emotionally draining, and getting negative pregnancy tests after negative tests made it that much harder and became more and more discouraged!
After trying for almost 3 years, and having no success, we decided that it was really time to see a fertility specialist. I was diagnosed with PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) which was told can cause issues with fertility. After doing another clomid cycle and gone thru 2 failed IUIs, and knowing the stress and cost of IVF, we decided to take a break. This was such a hard decision but I felt like my heart couldn’t take another negative pregnancy test. I know Blane was hurting knowing he couldn’t do much to make me feel better. But without fail, he’s always there to love & comfort me, he truly has been my balance, my calm, my support, and my rock! I would not be able to go through any of this without him. I Love You Sweetheart!!
After a year off, taking some time for ourselves, going to Italy, and really enjoying life together, we finally choose to take a look into IVF again. We spoke with our previous fertility Doctor and then decided to get a second opinion. After speaking with the second Doctor, and hearing his diagnosis and what he had to say, we now have a more clear understanding. We know that I am having anovulatory cycles and that Blane’s morphology is slightly below average and these can make it very difficult or unlikely to conceive naturally. We both really liked this new Doctor, he was personable, funny, and felt he was honest, giving us ALL the facts. He truly gave us HOPE! We are both excited and scared all at the same time but are ready to take this next step. Now it’s time to buckle down, save, and hopefully start our IVF journey soon.