Hello! My name is Aurora and my fiancé is Kylie! We have been together for four beautiful years. We have been attempting to blend and grow our family together! We started our baby journey in January of 2025. To grow our family as two women we have both attempted numerous at-home insemenations with donor sperm that have each failed. Kylie and I both got testing done and are deemed healthy, fertile and have just been unlucky this far. We attempted IVF due to the higher success rate which resulted in a failed cycle as well. Out of pocket we have spent over $36,000 in 2025 to try to have a baby together, and it has resulted in no baby yet. We are asking friends and family who know our struggles to considering donating towards our attempt of growing our family.
Consider gift cards to CNY Fertility if you don’t feel comfortable giving anything monetary here.
I will provide full transparency of the costs associated with IVF, and donor sperm to show how much of a toll this process has truly been for us throughout the year, using data from our sperm agency and the cheapest east coast Fertility Clinic we use called CNY.
At Home success rate 5-10% chance of success
Xytex Sperm Bank:
- $1,975 per vial of 0.5ml sperm
- $280 for overnight cryo tank shipping
- $875 for a security deposit returned after the tank is sent back
(This makes home insemenation up front out of pocket costs $3,130 PER TRY/CYCLE and cryopreserved sperm only live 12-24hrs after thaw making timing imperative).
IUI 10-20% chance of success (Dr places sperm directly in uterus and times fertility):
- $600 for the procedure
- $3,000 estimated medication costs
- $2,000 5 monitoring visits (ultrasounds and bloodwork are REQUIRED).
IVF 50% chance of success (Eggs are retrieved, fertilized, graded, and returned to uterus):
- $6,800 for the procedure, meds included in this bundle
- $50 per month for sperm cryostorage until ready for procedure
- $200 zymot sperm processing to remove all poor quality sperm cells and hopefully provide better fertilization rates
- $995 Frozen embryo transfer if you want to test your embryo first and then transfer.
- $2,000 test embryos for abnormalities to transfer the best one (optional)
- $4,000 for monitoring visits (ultrasounds and bloodwork are REQUIRED)
Adoption:
- $20-40k in legal costs etc.
We have tried to do this completely on our own but are at a loss financially. We would really like to grow and have a child together. We would appreciate any help or support that you may have to offer!
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