Help Ashley and Tyler Adopt

Ashley and Tyler have been on a long journey to becoming parents and adoption is now the option available to them moving forward. However, it is a very expensive endeavor in addition to being a long and emotional process. Furthermore, they are still in the process of paying back expensive fertility treatment bills and the costs of Ashley’s medical treatments. Ashley and Tyler are eager to begin a family of their own. Let’s support them and help them become the beautiful parents we know they are!

 

From Tyler:

Our Story 2021

Through the last year and a half, Ashley and I have experienced devastating losses that would have ripped apart most marriages. I know this will be a lot to read, and we should have shared it sooner, but it's hard. Hard to fathom and put into words how difficult this time has been. We still wanted to share because I am sure there are more people that have gone through this. You are not alone.

Before we got married, we knew we wanted to have kids very quickly, so we met with a reproductive specialist. They recommended that IVF was our best option for having kids. So less than a couple of months after being married, we put the house on the market to sell as it would provide us the money necessary to go through IVF (and ultimately allow us to provide care to our furbabies). We sold the house, bought a great new house in a wonderful new neighborhood. In late 2019, we moved, started IVF, found out Prissy had oral cancer and Robbie was experiencing pain so bad he was being destructive.

IVF was unsuccessful. We had 3 embryos that never became a child that we always wanted. IVF also destroyed Ashley's body in the process (in addition to having pneumonia at the outbreak of covid), putting her on bedrest for weeks and having to quarantine for several days at one point. Due to the pandemic, I was able to stay home and help take care of her and our fur babies. For that, I am forever grateful.

Ashley has been seeing specialists at least on a monthly basis to try and get her health back on track, but we eventually had to face the inevitable. Earlier this year, Ashley had a hysterectomy. Our nightmare became a reality. It has taken an emotional toll on us that nothing can prepare you for.

During the pandemic, we become certified to foster children. We have been unable to foster as Ashley continue to recover from her surgery and deal with the ongoing pain associate with endometriosis.

In addition to losing the ability to have our own kids, we lost both of our furbabies. Prissy fought against oral cancer for a year before she crossed the rainbow bridge. Robbie dealt with cognitive dysfunction, arthritis and eventually an undiagnosed cancer took his life in a matter of 3 months.

It is so difficult for both of us to see couples having kids without being jealous. It is something both of us have always wanted. I try to understand that God is in control, but ultimately my selfishness takes over and I question why we are not able to have kids at this time.

We are grateful that we have 2 new furbabies in our life, Tilly and Sherman and we are hopeful that in the near future that we will be able to grow our family through adoption.