Help Arianna Come Home

My daughter Arianna is now 12 years old. She understands and feels everything that’s happening to her. I can’t rely on the processes that are in place any longer.

This is our story:

I left Arianna’s father, Rodrick Idrogo, due to the mental and physical abuse I was suffering by his doing. I was starved, isolated, and I was constantly reminded of how little value I had. He is military and we lived on base. I weighed 98lbs when I walked away. I had no help and no one to call because he was military police and they don’t go after their own. When I left I had nothing; he took everything. Despite this, I managed to build a life for Arianna and I.

In 2016 Escambia county decided dad would never do the things I claimed he did and decided to give him primary custody and residency of Arianna. The exact words of the judge were “why would he risk his career for you.”I felt powerless and dismissed. I had to give this man my child and I had no financial resources to fight him. A few years later, he was deployed and Arianna comes to live with me. She’s thriving and doing great in school, and then COVID hits. He is returned from his deployment and he takes her from me again and I’m left broken and afraid for my child. Arianna always told me he was a good dad and he would buy her all the things she wanted.

Fast forward to 4/5/2025. I pick up Arianna for Spring Break. On the third day with me, Arianna has an anxiety attack to the point where I left work to come home to her shaking and in panic. My mom who was with her helped calm her and I immediately started looking for a therapist. I found a therapist who was available to speak with her the same day. After Arianna’s therapy session that day, her therapist calls me and tells me that she recommends I do not send Arianna back home to her dad to which I mention I have a court order that forces me to send her back. I asked if there was something I should know about that is happening to her that would allow me to not send her back to her dad without legal repercussions. The therapist responded that they could not disclose that information until Arianna is ready to share it with me. On Thursday 4/10/2025 Arianna has her second therapy appointment. This was a face-to-face appointment. When they were done they called me in and sat me down, and the therapist tells me Arianna’s ready to share with me what is happening. Arianna begins to tell me that her father’s wife a.k.a. her stepmother has been beating her with a belt. She tells me that she only has access to macaroni and cheese, Cheez-Its and potato chips to eat for breakfast lunch and dinner. She also tells me that her stepmom walks around the home naked while her father touches the stepmom sexually and inappropriately in front of our daughter. When asked to elaborate my daughter said her dad puts his fingers inside of his wife’s no no square a.k.a. her vaginal area. She also says that her dad is constantly telling her how dumb, stupid, ugly, and selfish she is.

On Friday 4/11, I go straight to court and file for an emergency motion for custody but nothing happens. On Saturday 4/12 when I was supposed to return her, as we were leaving to head to the airport, because I am obligated to return her, Arianna had a severe anxiety attack in which she said if you put me on the plane, I am going to kill myself. I immediately called DCF in Florida and they advised me to call DCF in California to which I did. DCF in California told me to not return the child and to take her to the emergency room. We go to the emergency room. We arrive to the emergency room at around 2 PM and we are there until about 7:30 PM. We see social workers, DCF agents, and physicians. Every single professional told me to not return this child to her father. She is very willing to take her life if she is returned to her father. So I listened and I kept my child.

I enrolled her in school. I continued her therapy sessions and I took her to her primary care physician, who indeed confirmed that there were signs of malnutrition. She was also behind on her shots and when she was asked about this, she said her dad never takes her to the doctor. “I only see the doctor when I’m here with my mom.”

I then get myself a lawyer because my emergency motion for custody is denied. The Lee County court system decided that there was no abuse. This was a custody issue. The lawyer files for emergency custody while DCF in the state of Florida argues as to which DCF in which state is going to take this case, Florida or California. Three weeks after having Arianna here, I decided to re-submit a DCF case here in the state of Florida because the state of Florida holds jurisdiction over the custody of Arianna. When I told Arianna I resubmitted a report to DCF, she confessed to me that her stepmother’s cousin a man by the name of Cameron Vitosh, who is approximately 25 years old, has been grooming my child and when I asked her if her dad knew her response was yes.

The following day (PLACE DATE), I receive a phone call from a DCF agent who told me he was going to set up an interview for Arianna at the Child Advocacy Center. Her interview was set up for May 5th at 9 AM, but Arianna did not make it to that interview. At 1 AM on May 4th the police came to my residence with an order to remove Arianna from my custody and that she is to be returned to her father immediately, and if I refused, the order states they will take me into custody immediately. Signed by judge Todd Harris from Escambia County, Pensacola. This judge did not ask any questions. This judge did not look to see if there were any additional open cases. This judge did not think for one second why is Mom violating the court order now? Mom has never violated the order in 9 years so wouldn’t it be questionable to anyone as to why Mom decided to violate this order now? I was never given the opportunity to speak for my child or for my child to speak for herself prior to them taking her from me. They removed my child.

As soon as Arianna realized she was going to be returned to her dad she started to have a panic attack. She began shaking and crying, begging every person in the room to please not take her back. She said “they’re gonna beat me. They’re gonna hit me. They’re gonna be mad at me. They’re going to take my things they’re gonna keep me away from my mommy,” as I sat there hopelessly sobbing for my child. I did not want to give my child back. I begged my child to be brave and to stay strong. That I would get her back. That I would continue to protect and watch over her. Im not going to stop fighting for her. I’m writing this because my child is in danger. My child is living with two adults who are not fit to be parents let alone have custody of my daughter. Arianna is living in fear. She’s not allowed to close her door. She’s not allowed to have a conversation with anyone without someone listening in. She has her phone taken from her every hour so her dad can search through it.

I wish my child didn’t have to go through the things that she’s going through. I wish my child never experienced the abuse and the hurt that she has experienced by someone who is supposed to love her and protect her: her father. I’m writing this because I have no other resources. The justice system has taken the side of an abusive man, while I try to protect my child from this monster. I will never stop fighting for Arianna. I will never stop advocating for my child. I will not stop until my child is returned home safely. My biggest fear is that it’ll be too late. She is at her limits with the abuse and she’s not afraid to hurt herself just to escape the life she’s currently living. Please share Arianna’s story and help me bring awareness to the broken justice system and the lack of urgency from DCF workers in both states. I refuse to let my daughter suffer the fates of other children like #GabrielFernandez. #justiceforarianna #stoptheabuse

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