Help Anyone With Anything
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Part of me is terrified.
Might be a strong word, but it feels apt.
Part of me is extremely excited too.
I’m reaching out, and I don’t want to (as usual). But I’ve spoken to a few close friends and mentors, and they’ve brought me back to center.
I’m facing a wall I can’t climb alone. It’s just clear at this point. I want to climb it by myself, but I can’t.
I need your help.
I’m working to build a new system of health, recovery, and wellness to help those struggling with suicide and bring them to a more empowered and joyful existence.
I spoke with some friends recently, a few who’ve had thoughts of killing themselves. And it reminds me of the weight of it. The feeling like nothing can be done. “It’s hopeless. Or “I’m worthless.” And “everyone would be better off if I were gone.”
There’s a sick feeling in my stomach as I revisit those thoughts. But it disappears as I move into the present again. And Peace returns.
And I remember why I’m here.
I’m here to help others.
I’m here to show and teach others how to escape their own personal hell. How to find their strengths and bring them to bear and change the environments around them. To change the world for the better.
The people I speak to in these places can’t afford help. They’re piled under debt or despair or both. They’ve been lost in red tape at the VA, kicked from team to team or doc to doc. They’re gas station attendants who find themselves fired and homeless. They’re single mothers, whose husbands come home from war or prison shattered by the horrors, and shoot themselves in the head or hang themselves from rafters in workshops or ceiling fans in hotels.
I need help getting this thing off the ground.
This post is another leap of faith in the mine-laden hopscotch of life where sometimes you gain a square and sometimes you lose a leg or worse. A leap of faith that, when we don’t have much to stand on already, we’re always afraid to make.
I have my legs. I have a lot. I really have everything I need to just retire in some small apartment, sit back, and wait for time to do its thing. But I was never meant or called to sit and wait. And lately, the Universe is making it clearer than ever.
I have to act.
And I don’t have the resources to do the things I’m being called to do and be the man I’m being called to be.
But I know there are people out there who do. They’ve saved my life many times. I spoke with one of them recently—a friend—and he said, “we want to help. We just need an avenue. Give us one, and we will help.”
This is the avenue.
If you don’t know me from Adam, check out my posts. Visit my website. Read my stories. Reach out to me or someone who knows me and ask.
My brother, Nick, used to bug the shit out of me when he’d say, “you always take things too seriously.” Well, Nick, I hope you weren’t just projecting.
I am serious.
(I’m funny too, but… another time and place.)
Right now—we have work to do, lives to save, and a world to change.
If you cannot give, share this post with your network far and wide.
Join me.
“Therefore, to him who knows to do good and does it not, to him: it is error.”
- James the Just –
. . .
Here are some of the things I’m doing (and their associated costs) to help get this thing off the ground:
$10,000 - Kickstart Donation Fund
This will be the initial ‘Help Anyone With Anything’ fund.
What I’ve found in my experience is: those who are considering suicide think no one will help them. They feel helpless, hopeless, and worthless. They have the impression they cannot be helped because they feel outcasted, unwanted, or unloved by anyone.
‘Help Anyone With Anything’ is the main effort.
It will be the worldwide brand synonymous with doing anything and everything in the name of Love for those who feel outcast, worthless, or forgotten.
Dr. Richard Schwartz, creator of Internal Family Systems therapy, speaks to it here:
“We can’t make the necessary changes without a new model of the mind. Ecologist Daniel Christian Wahl states that “Humanity is coming of age and needs a ‘new story’ that is powerful and meaningful enough to galvanize global collaboration and guide a collective response to the converging crises we are facing…. In the fundamentally interconnected and interdependent planetary system we participate in, the best way to care for oneself and those closest to oneself is to start caring more for the benefit of the collective (all life). Metaphorically speaking, we are all in the same boat, our planetary life support system, or in Buckminster Fuller’s words: ‘Spaceship Earth.’ The ‘them-against-us’ thinking that for too long has defined politics between nations, companies and people is profoundly anachronistic.” 1 Jimmy Carter echoes that sentiment: “What is needed now, more than ever, is leadership that steers us away from fear and fosters greater confidence in the inherent goodness and ingenuity of humanity.” 2 Our leaders can’t do that, however, with the way we currently understand the mind because it highlights the darkness in humanity. We need a new paradigm that convincingly shows that humanity is inherently good and thoroughly interconnected. With that understanding, we can finally move from being ego-, family-, and ethno-centric to species-, bio-, and planet-centric. Such a change won’t be easy. Too many of our basic institutions are based on the dark view. Take, for example, neoliberalism, the economic philosophy of Milton Friedman that undergirds the kind of cutthroat capitalism that has dominated many countries, including the US, since the days of Ronald Reagan and Margaret Thatcher. Neoliberalism is based on the belief that people are basically selfish and, therefore, it’s everyone for themselves in a survival-of-the-fittest world. The government needs to get out of the way so the fittest can not only help us survive, but thrive. This economic philosophy has resulted in massive inequality as well as the disconnection and polarization among people that we experience so dramatically today. The time has come for a new view of human nature that releases the collaboration and caring that lives in our hearts.”
— No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Schwartz, Richard, Ph.D.
. . .
We need every human on this planet to heal. No one left behind. This is a no-fail mission. We will not be at peace until the world is at peace. And ‘Help Anyone With Anything’ will find a way.
$5000 - I’m hiring an editor to help me write my first book, the working title of which is:
Endstate: A Tactical Guide To Inner Peace
$5000 - Marketing Team
I’ve found a marketing and outreach team to help me get tools in front of the people who need them. The team will help me distill ideas, build workshops, and spread the message.
$10,000 - Everything Else
This last piece will be everything else. A mix of the known-knowns and unknown-unknowns. I know they are here, because I’ve dealt with them before. (I’m still dealing with them now.)
In my attempt to get an initial loan for this endeavor, I’ve been stiff-armed by lingering elements of my dark past. I am unable to get a loan. When I reached out to friends, they suggested this GoFunMe. So here we are.
Some of the specific costs are: licensing, legal fees, application fees, relocation, travel for research and interviews, coaching classes, authorship classes, podcast start-up equipment and software, and the day-to-day little things that add up big.
I do not expect this part. I don’t expect any of it. I am asking out of hope, faith, and love after wise counsel from close friends and mentors.
Will you help me make this dream a reality?
If you will, please share anything you can. And send this GoFundMe to everyone you know who may be willing to help.
We are creating a new system. There are plenty systems out there, but the specific goal of This system is to help those falling through the cracks. And to discover and implement creative ways to Help Anyone With Anything, in the name of Love.
From my heart to yours,
Thank you.
Sincerely,
- Evan -
Might be a strong word, but it feels apt.
Part of me is extremely excited too.
I’m reaching out, and I don’t want to (as usual). But I’ve spoken to a few close friends and mentors, and they’ve brought me back to center.
I’m facing a wall I can’t climb alone. It’s just clear at this point. I want to climb it by myself, but I can’t.
I need your help.
I’m working to build a new system of health, recovery, and wellness to help those struggling with suicide and bring them to a more empowered and joyful existence.
I spoke with some friends recently, a few who’ve had thoughts of killing themselves. And it reminds me of the weight of it. The feeling like nothing can be done. “It’s hopeless. Or “I’m worthless.” And “everyone would be better off if I were gone.”
There’s a sick feeling in my stomach as I revisit those thoughts. But it disappears as I move into the present again. And Peace returns.
And I remember why I’m here.
I’m here to help others.
I’m here to show and teach others how to escape their own personal hell. How to find their strengths and bring them to bear and change the environments around them. To change the world for the better.
The people I speak to in these places can’t afford help. They’re piled under debt or despair or both. They’ve been lost in red tape at the VA, kicked from team to team or doc to doc. They’re gas station attendants who find themselves fired and homeless. They’re single mothers, whose husbands come home from war or prison shattered by the horrors, and shoot themselves in the head or hang themselves from rafters in workshops or ceiling fans in hotels.
I need help getting this thing off the ground.
This post is another leap of faith in the mine-laden hopscotch of life where sometimes you gain a square and sometimes you lose a leg or worse. A leap of faith that, when we don’t have much to stand on already, we’re always afraid to make.
I have my legs. I have a lot. I really have everything I need to just retire in some small apartment, sit back, and wait for time to do its thing. But I was never meant or called to sit and wait. And lately, the Universe is making it clearer than ever.
I have to act.
And I don’t have the resources to do the things I’m being called to do and be the man I’m being called to be.
But I know there are people out there who do. They’ve saved my life many times. I spoke with one of them recently—a friend—and he said, “we want to help. We just need an avenue. Give us one, and we will help.”
This is the avenue.
If you don’t know me from Adam, check out my posts. Visit my website. Read my stories. Reach out to me or someone who knows me and ask.
My brother, Nick, used to bug the shit out of me when he’d say, “you always take things too seriously.” Well, Nick, I hope you weren’t just projecting.
I am serious.
(I’m funny too, but… another time and place.)
Right now—we have work to do, lives to save, and a world to change.
If you cannot give, share this post with your network far and wide.
Join me.
“Therefore, to him who knows to do good and does it not, to him: it is error.”
- James the Just –
. . .
Here are some of the things I’m doing (and their associated costs) to help get this thing off the ground:
$10,000 - Kickstart Donation Fund
This will be the initial ‘Help Anyone With Anything’ fund.
What I’ve found in my experience is: those who are considering suicide think no one will help them. They feel helpless, hopeless, and worthless. They have the impression they cannot be helped because they feel outcasted, unwanted, or unloved by anyone.
‘Help Anyone With Anything’ is the main effort.
It will be the worldwide brand synonymous with doing anything and everything in the name of Love for those who feel outcast, worthless, or forgotten.
Dr. Richard Schwartz, creator of Internal Family Systems therapy, speaks to it here:
“We can’t make the necessary changes without a new model of the mind. Ecologist Daniel Christian Wahl states that “Humanity is coming of age and needs a ‘new story’ that is powerful and meaningful enough to galvanize global collaboration and guide a collective response to the converging crises we are facing…. In the fundamentally interconnected and interdependent planetary system we participate in, the best way to care for oneself and those closest to oneself is to start caring more for the benefit of the collective (all life). Metaphorically speaking, we are all in the same boat, our planetary life support system, or in Buckminster Fuller’s words: ‘Spaceship Earth.’ The ‘them-against-us’ thinking that for too long has defined politics between nations, companies and people is profoundly anachronistic.” 1 Jimmy Carter echoes that sentiment: “What is needed now, more than ever, is leadership that steers us away from fear and fosters greater confidence in the inherent goodness and ingenuity of humanity.” 2 Our leaders can’t do that, however, with the way we currently understand the mind because it highlights the darkness in humanity. We need a new paradigm that convincingly shows that humanity is inherently good and thoroughly interconnected. With that understanding, we can finally move from being ego-, family-, and ethno-centric to species-, bio-, and planet-centric. Such a change won’t be easy. Too many of our basic institutions are based on the dark view. Take, for example, neoliberalism, the economic philosophy of Milton Friedman that undergirds the kind of cutthroat capitalism that has dominated many countries, including the US, since the days of Ronald Reagan and Margaret Thatcher. Neoliberalism is based on the belief that people are basically selfish and, therefore, it’s everyone for themselves in a survival-of-the-fittest world. The government needs to get out of the way so the fittest can not only help us survive, but thrive. This economic philosophy has resulted in massive inequality as well as the disconnection and polarization among people that we experience so dramatically today. The time has come for a new view of human nature that releases the collaboration and caring that lives in our hearts.”
— No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Schwartz, Richard, Ph.D.
. . .
We need every human on this planet to heal. No one left behind. This is a no-fail mission. We will not be at peace until the world is at peace. And ‘Help Anyone With Anything’ will find a way.
$5000 - I’m hiring an editor to help me write my first book, the working title of which is:
Endstate: A Tactical Guide To Inner Peace
$5000 - Marketing Team
I’ve found a marketing and outreach team to help me get tools in front of the people who need them. The team will help me distill ideas, build workshops, and spread the message.
$10,000 - Everything Else
This last piece will be everything else. A mix of the known-knowns and unknown-unknowns. I know they are here, because I’ve dealt with them before. (I’m still dealing with them now.)
In my attempt to get an initial loan for this endeavor, I’ve been stiff-armed by lingering elements of my dark past. I am unable to get a loan. When I reached out to friends, they suggested this GoFunMe. So here we are.
Some of the specific costs are: licensing, legal fees, application fees, relocation, travel for research and interviews, coaching classes, authorship classes, podcast start-up equipment and software, and the day-to-day little things that add up big.
I do not expect this part. I don’t expect any of it. I am asking out of hope, faith, and love after wise counsel from close friends and mentors.
Will you help me make this dream a reality?
If you will, please share anything you can. And send this GoFundMe to everyone you know who may be willing to help.
We are creating a new system. There are plenty systems out there, but the specific goal of This system is to help those falling through the cracks. And to discover and implement creative ways to Help Anyone With Anything, in the name of Love.
From my heart to yours,
Thank you.
Sincerely,
- Evan -
Organizer
Evan Jones
Organizer
Boise, ID