Sorry but this is a LONG read.

My life has sucked monumentally since losing my mom in July of 2022. Not only did I lose my best friend, she passed away just 2 weeks after moving into a mobile home that we planned on buying in a 55+ community. (I was only 51 at the time but was allowed to live there as I was my mom's caregiver and had been for a good portion of my life.) So, since I was not technically old enough to live there without her, they kicked me out. At the time, I was on the board of directors for an animal rescue in Yuma and was also a volunteer rescuer and foster parent. And I had to rehome the 3 dogs we were going to adopt. Broke my heart even more.

I had gotten a job interview in San Diego and decided to deal with going through mom's stuff when I returned. After a 4 hour trip, I returned to our place in Yuma, only to find out that our new neighbors broke into our house and garage and stole almost everything. And the cops refused to do anything.

I packed up what was left and moved to Poway with 4 other people, until the owner sold the home 2 weeks after move in and we had to move to a 3bed 2bath condo in Rancho Bernardo.

I thought it was still just going to be the 5 of us but the landlord converted the living room, dining room, den and the 3 car garage into bedrooms (turning each room into 2 living quarters). Now instead of 5 people we had 15. And we were each paying $950 for our own space. Do you know how difficult it is to have to share 2 bathrooms with 14 people mostly men and not have locks on the door?

I was paying the same amount mom and I had been paying for an entire house on 1/3 of an acre in Yuma. But I agreed to do it because we were promised use of the heated pool, spa, gymn and sports courts. But the landlord neglected to give us access to anything. And since I was the only non Chinese speaking person, I got blamed for any and everything that went wrong. Our high electric bill couldn't possibly be because she had 15 people living there.

And then my car that mom had paid cash for, that had a 2 year registration paid and had a personalized license plate that she had gotten me for Christmas in 2021, died. We had that car since 2011 and it only had 5 miles on it. It had a lot of great memories. All the road trips, all the drives to concerts and even being homeless with our 2 dogs for about a year and a half before moving to Yuma. (That's a whole other story)

I had to buy a car 2 years younger but had almost the same amount of miles. And I had an almost $300 a month payment and registration and insurance. With the exception of insurance, the other was not something I had to deal with since 2011.

After 6 months I was finally able to move and instead of 14 roommates, I only had one in Escondido. It was in a 73 year old woman's house. Originally she asked for $1100 but knocked it down to $1000 because she liked me.

I had to switch jobs a few times due to distance/car issues. Thought I had found the perfect job working at a doggy daycare but apparently I was not supposed to go to work happy, be happy all day at work and come home happy. Who knew!? So they cut my hours down from 38 a week to just 4. Sad cuz I loved that job...after 20 plus years of volunteer animal rescue, I was finally getting paid to do something I loved.

Anyway, fast forward to 2025. I got a job as an Assistant Activities Director for a retirement community. While on my 60 day probation, about a month and a half in, I had a stroke and ended up in the hospital for a week and found out that Ihave AFIBandStinosisaa well. The docs wanted me to stay home and rest for a month or two but I told them that I had to work so I could pay rent. Reluctantly, they released me to full duty. I showed my bosses my back to work as usual note from the doctor but they put me on a 4 week non paid medical leave.

When they finally let me return (after me spending $300 to see more doctors to get more recess forms). Just one week after my return, they fired me. Now, I know it was because of my medical issues but they claimed something different. Because it's illegal to fire somebody for health issues. But still, I was fired. That same day, my roommate gives me an eviction notice. Next day, I am driving around looking for another job when a young woman, texting on her cell phone, swerved into my lane without her signal and then stopped for no reason. I tried going right to avoid her but she was too close and I clipped her right back tire. Cops came and after talking to us both agreed it was her fault. But at the time neither of us was injured so no report was filed.

It wasn't until later that night that I started noticing that I was indeed hurt. My roommate took me to urgent care and they did xrays and MRIs and found out tht I had actually hit the back of my head pretty hard and it messed up the vision in my left eye. It also caused me to have head, neck, shoulders and sciatica pain. And because of my constant pain, I've been unable to find work. And January 11th was my last day in Escondido. (My eviction date)

I am so used to helping others (rescue work, picking up donations for church and help organizing the foodbank, setting up charity concert fundraisers etc) that it feels weird to ask others for help.

I'm trying to get disability or unemployment or something but no luck as of yet. I heard it could take up to a year.

I have no job and no income whatsoever and I still have over $700 a month in storage and bills and that's not even including rent.

Right now I am staying on the couch of a friend of a friend but it's only until February 1st. In exchange for cooking and cleaning but I've not been abke to do much cleaning due to the pain.

I know it's a big ask but could you find it in your heart to help me get into a place to live? Ideally a studio or 1 bedroom of my own with no roommates.

I've not felt at home since mom's been gone.

I was able to get a beater car

(an ugly, cheap car with tons of miles but still runs) but it is super small and I'm 6'. So living in this car isn't an option.

Anything you can do to help would be greatly appreciated.

If you made it to the end, thank you and God bless.

Alisha