Help a Trans Woman Find Safety and Peace - Updated 03 03 25

I am a disabled transgender woman about to be turning 27 this coming June, I was raised in North Carolina and more or less got myself stuck here through the combination of trauma financial issues ETC. Things have recently gotten better for me in some ways I got the green light to get imaging done for procedures I want to have to make me feel more secure within myself and within society, but I also have encountered real discrimination and barriers that the new administration put in place that are affecting me in my home state. I am unable to update my information in databases when my legal information very much does not match what is in those databases. I no longer wish to live in a place I feel unwelcome in and I would like to raise a realistic amount of money to help me move out of this area so that I can have a safe space to prepare to have surgery in. I no longer feel welcome in my own community that I have resided in since I was a child I feel threatened on a daily basis there are people who live in this area who have hurt me in ways I didn't think were possible, when I am at home with my partner we argue over whether it is okay to open the blinds because I do not feel safe for people to see into my home and conclude that a transgender woman lives there.

I consider myself a financially responsible human being, but at the same time it's good to know when you need to ask for help I will do my best to take reasonable steps to account for the usage of any donations that are made to me.

I know that right now is an extremely dark time in the world and there are many worthy causes to donate to there are people in need everywhere and part of me feels small and bad to even ask for financial assistance from strangers or friends from school but at the same time I do believe if we are ever going to heal as a society we will have to practice mutual aid and that is something I believe people are worthy of simply for existing and being good humans.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

IMPORTANT UPDATE : 03/03/2025 11:23 AM

Myself and my ex partner seen next to me in the photo have since separated, it makes me very sad but it is the best thing for my safety as their treatment had become actively abusive. I am currently taking time with family to kind of set my life back in order. I am still gearing up to access some necessary gender affirming care in the area, trying to set everything I need to be in place for that up.

Quite honestly after separating from my partner I am unsure of what my next step is currently I am just taking time to take care of my mental health and prepare to go back to work. Taking steps to make the space I'm currently in more secure since when the relationship ended things had become quite hostile on their end. I still ultimately plan to eventually relocate to a more supportive area, but with the upcoming procedures, cost of moving even somewhere relatively close, and some credit card debt that that I incurred from having to stay in hotels for a few nights and buy various things when I didn't feel safe at home, well I am currently unsure when I move may happen I am trying to evaluate the best way to use my resources to facilitate my mental health and transition moving forward.

With this in mind I understand if anyone would like to ask for their donation to be returned and I am happy to do that if necessary, please understand that the spirit of my fundraiser remains unchanged this was essentially an attempt to raise money to better facilitate my well-being as a trans person and that is still very much what the money is earmarked for.

And I feel badly about having to post this up-to-date but quite frankly what I thought was going to be a major support in my life of having a partner and someone there to help care for me during difficult times pretty much turned into a nightmare and I had to take drastic steps to stop the situation from escalating any further.

My current plan is to entrust a family member who has been an advocate for my disability for years with the money and simply have them set it aside for when it is needed to pay for expenses of relocating to a safer area.

Unfortunately it is just not a good time to pack up totally I am looking at a lesser radical change of address more in the short term to feel a bit safer, but there are so many things that I still need to handle in this state related to my legal status and documents. Which unfortunately with the new administration are very much in a limbo state. And unfortunately that does have to take priority on some level because I really have no idea how that would affect me trying to obtain housing or credit anywhere else. Getting coverage for insurance cashing checks applying for credit all of these things have been a nightmare since I've changed my name. I guess I am trying to be open and honest that right now with all the chaos in my life I kind of just need to attend to the specific kinks I need to work out in my information and make sure that that is solid before I can just pick up and go.

Thank you for your understanding and if anybody needs to contact me about their donation please do so.