My sister’s husband is abusive. Surveillance cameras inside the house to monitor her, verbal and physical violence towards her and her children from a prior relationship for years until the kids were old enough to move out. Alcoholic rages, drinking a case of beer a night. And every time she would call the police, he would get off because he is a cop too. He doesn’t abuse the child they have together, but she has regularly witnessed his abuse of her mom.

Starting over is hard. And expensive. Divorce attorneys. Trauma therapy copays. Rent and utility deposits. Furniture. Replacing everything you own basically, because you can’t couch surf while the courts sort it all out. It’s also really stressful, filing for restraining orders, trying to ensure you aren’t leaking location data from your phone or social media, getting aggressive and escalating texts at all hours.

If you’re so inclined to help, it’s appreciated.