癌症晚期单亲妈妈的生命之战：为了新生女儿，我想活下去

只身一人来美国奋斗了10年后渴望做一个妈妈，40岁的我决定做一个单亲妈妈。

二零二一年一次体检妇科体检改变了我接下来几年的人生，那次医生告诉我因为看不到卵泡了以后不会有孩子了，从此便开始了试管之路，医生说我成功率很低很低，但女儿似乎在天上看到了我的良苦用心，很荣幸的是经历3次取卵，成了一个胚胎，这个结果医生都觉是奇迹。

但就在我开心要移植胚胎时，命运似乎跟我开了一个玩笑——我患了子宫癌，因为恶性成度太高，要立刻把所有的生殖系统全以及淋巴全部切除，否则后果不堪设想。正在准备开心的做一个单亲妈妈的我无法接受这样的事实，决定直面死亡，不愿放弃做妈妈的机会和梦想，如果活着不开心死了也罢！

这样信念下我放弃了子宫摘除手术，选择代替疗法，在尝试了一年的针灸和中药之后，肚子被扎的千疮百孔，中药差不多喝了一条河，每天坚持跑步几公里，功夫不负有心人！经过一年5次刮宫病理报告上，医生告诉我，抗癌成功，看不到有癌细胞了！

2023年七月把胚胎移植并成功的怀孕了。整个孕期没停下过一天工作，单亲妈妈不容易，直到生产的前一天我仍然在上班，虽然孕期很辛苦但也是开心的。

2024年4月8号那一天我独自开车去了医院生产，期待已久的女儿诞生了，原本以为一切苦难都结束了，医生却告诉我刨腹产时看到我的癌症已经扩到肠子部位并且是三期了，朋友们哭成一团，产后当天所有的医护人员都知道了一个单亲妈妈刚刚生产就确诊癌症的消息，轰动了整个妇产科，医护人员也纷纷来到我的病床送来的慰问，而我连哭的力气都没有，感觉心里在滴血，别人是产房传喜讯，而我是产房传恶耗，看着刚刚出生的女儿我怎么也高兴不起来？

我可以勇敢的做一个单亲妈妈，但是无法接受我的孩子在不久的将来就失去一个那么爱她的妈妈，我该怎么办？曾经我不怕死，可是看着身边刚刚呱呱落地的女儿，我害怕极了，我要活！

单亲妈妈没有坐月子的福气，迫于经济压力产后三天就带着虚弱的身体投入了工作。

2024年10月进行了第二次开腹大手术，医生说手术很成功，半年内两次大手术让我的身体倍感虚弱，正当马上开启化疗程序时，术后一个月复查显示癌症原位复发了，犹如晴天霹雳一般。

异国他乡10几年没有任何家人亲人在身边，面对一切身体疾病的压力，精神压力，经济压力，一切的一切，压得我快要窒息了，抑郁，焦虑失眠……

我想继续工作但是我真的坚持不住了，我的事件引起了议员和社会的关注，命运此起彼伏，一次次给我希望，又让我绝望，最后将我打入谷底，无力回天，我想活，我想看着女儿长大！

我恳请您的帮助——无论金额大小，您的每一份支持都将用于我的医疗费用、生活开支以及抚养我的女儿。希望通过大家的帮助，让我的女儿能够拥有妈妈陪伴她成长的机会。

衷心感谢您给予的善意和慷慨支持！

-为女儿战斗的秀娟Lulu

(English Version)

After 10 years of hard work and perseverance in the U.S., I longed to become a mother. At the age of 40, I made the courageous decision to embrace single motherhood.

In 2021, a routine gynecological checkup changed my life forever. My doctor informed me that my ovarian reserves were too low, and I would likely never conceive naturally. Devastated but determined, I embarked on the journey of IVF. Despite the odds being stacked against me, a miracle happened: after three rounds of egg retrievals, I was blessed with one viable embryo. Even my doctors called it a miracle.

But just as I was preparing to transfer the embryo, life dealt me a devastating blow: I was diagnosed with uterine cancer. The cancer was aggressive, and doctors advised immediate removal of my entire reproductive system. Refusing to give up on my dream of becoming a mother, I chose to delay surgery and pursued alternative therapies, including acupuncture and herbal medicine. For a year, I endured countless needles, drank endless herbal concoctions, and ran several kilometers daily. Miraculously, follow-up biopsies showed no sign of cancer.

In July 2023, I finally transferred the embryo and became pregnant. I worked tirelessly throughout my pregnancy, even up until the day before delivery. On April 8, 2024, I gave birth to my beautiful daughter—a moment I had waited for so long.

But my joy was short-lived. During the C-section, doctors discovered that the cancer had returned and spread to my intestines. It was now stage 3. The joyous moment of my daughter’s birth turned into one of heartbreak. My friends were in tears, the entire maternity ward was shaken, and nurses came to offer their condolences. I was too devastated to cry. Looking at my newborn daughter, I was overwhelmed with fear—how could I leave her behind so soon?

Determined to give her a fighting chance, I returned to work just three days after delivery, despite my weak and fragile state. In October 2024, I underwent a second major surgery, which doctors deemed successful. But just a month later, a follow-up revealed that the cancer had returned to its original site.

I am now facing unimaginable physical, emotional, and financial burdens. Living alone in a foreign country with no family support, the weight of this battle has pushed me to the brink of collapse. Sleepless nights, anxiety, and depression have consumed me.

I have always fought hard for my dreams, but I cannot do this alone anymore. I want to live. I want to see my daughter grow up.

I humbly ask for your help—any contribution, big or small, will go towards my medical treatments, living expenses, and supporting my daughter. Together, we can give her the chance to have a mother by her side as she grows.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your kindness and generosity.

Sincerely,

A mother fighting for her daughter’s future