Getting Aphrodite Over An Abuse Bill

In December 2022, after my abusers attacked me and sent me to hospital, I asked for help here and I am grateful to everyone who helped me in that hour of need.


That was me almost freshly out of the hospital back in December 2022.


Life has generally gotten better in every way but financial. I am getting married to the love of my life who helped me in that moment get help to stabilize and recover. My health is improving, even if my mobility has taken a slight beating thanks to Ehlers Danlos complications. 


Overextended in far too many meanings of that word in this photograph. Most relevant way was that I had just dislocated an ankle I would have surgery on in November of last year, laying me out for two months. 


But financial is where I have the problem.

I lived with one of my abusers during Covid. I was nudged, thanks to an erroneous understanding of what relief the government was implementing, to get support I was not eligible for.

I messed up. Even if the error was seemingly in good faith, I screwed up and now owe $5,000 to repay the supports I was not eligible for. 

I can’t blame my abusers for my errors. I should’ve known better than to trust the wrong info I received, but i can’t unring that bell.

I was hoping to be employed to pay this back in full but I’m still on disability leave from my last job, with severe pain making work challenging and with limitations on my physical ability making finding new work really hard in this already challenging environment. 

Fortunately, I’m in the pipeline for provincial disability support, but that will only be enough to cover my living expenses bar a miracle. 

I’m hoping for that miracle by making this post. 

I hope to raise the $5,000 not for myself.

I’m doing this for my soon to be spouse. 

I’m hoping to help them emigrate. I need to have this debt gone in order to help them get PR status, to move in, and for us to support each other physically, emotionally, even spiritually, while I ensure I do what I can to keep them safe in a home with one who loves them deeply, passionately, and unconditionally. 


Me looking confused and unsure, which seems to be my default these days.

With luck, I’ll be employed again soon and this won’t be necessary anymore. But honestly I’m worried that my ability to do in the future will be limited and that would lead to me not being able to live with my spouse in the place we both want to be our home. 

Every little bit helps and goes straight to paying that debt. 

Thanks. ❤️