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Hi, my name is Geo. I'm a nearly 27 year old trans man fundraising for a double incision mastectomy.
I've been out as trans since I was 15, I've been on the waitlist for a first appointment with The Laurels Gender Clinic since November 2017, it took me 2 years to even convince a GP to refer me, this entire period of waiting has been horrific, depressing, disheartening. It was only supposed to take 2 years. I've spent the last decade waiting for my life to actually begin, and without the means to pay privately for the surgery I need, I still have years of waiting ahead of me.
My chest causes me a huge amount of physical and mental discomfort, top surgery is and has always been the "end goal" of my transition. At size DD, binding to be flat is difficult, painful & dangerous. Whilst working long shifts in 2019 and wearing a binder throughout I suffered a cracked rib which has left me with ongoing pain on my left side when wearing a binder now. The back pain that I'm sure any other large chested people can relate to. The immense dysphoria from passing as a man until people look down. KT tape leaves me with blisters and worsens the already very stretched skin on my chest, which could cause complications with surgery results because of the skins reduced elasticity. The end result of my surgery will already likely look very different to how I originally imagined it in 2016 due to the decade of binding I didn't expect to have to do, I have been trying my best to manage in the meantime and look after my chest, but its not easy to do when staring down an indefinite wait.
Like the majority of people in the UK, saving thousands of pounds has been unachievable for me, I did have a fundraiser for this in 2023, which I closed after donations stalled at around £200, that money allowed me to access hormones which has improved my quality of life so much. Again, thankyou to everyone who donated before.
Top surgery costs in the UK vary between £6000-£10000, so I have set the cost for this fundraiser to be the minimum I may need, and I will edit it after my consultation with the surgeon (July 22nd)
I still plan to save what money i can and deposit it into this fundraiser for full transparency, but I won't be able to get there without help. I want to raise the amount before the NHS eventually gets to me, and live my life in my actual body, I need to take this into my hands.
The last decade has shown me that anything can happen on that wait list, there is no urgency or care, it can jump up years at any time, and the first appointment still doesn't mean I'm anywhere near the goal. This waiting has taken such a toll on me, my life has passed me by in so many ways. My dream at 16 based on the initial wait times was to have had top surgery by 22, it was the only thing keeping me going through the worst periods of my life, and I had to let that go, continue to adjust my expectations year by year, it has been ongoing devastation for my entire adult life.
The dream now is a summer on the beach without this weight on my chest, sometime before I turn 30. Based on current wait times after first appointment, the NHS will not get me there.
Please, if you can, help me make this dream a reality. Anything you can give gets me a step closer to being able to live my life fully & authentically, free of my biggest burden, these giant tits.
If I don't manage to save enough before the NHS gets round to me, or if amounts donated exceed the amount I need, the leftover money will be donated into other trans surgery funds.
With so much love, and hope for myself for the first time in a while, Geo.

