
Funds for a lawyer and moving out.
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My name is Allison. I’be been married to a narcissist for 10 years, together 15. We have an almost 7 year old daughter together. He works full time as an RN and he is in the Army Reserve, serving as a Major. In December of 2020 our child contracted Covid 19 and ended up with Multisystem Inflamtory Disorder which attacked her heart and caused damage. At that point our family decided that I would change from a FT position to a PRN position. We made this choice so that I would leave my job to stay home with her and homeschool her to keep her protected and safe until she qualified to be vaccinated. During this time especially, but over the years of marriage my husband depleted our accounts and we started to acquire a lot of debt. To make a long story short, we have always had separate bank accounts which was his choosing. I am now seeking divorce as I can not allow my daughter to stay in this situation anymore. I’ve been mentally and emotionally abused by him from the moment I met him. Once she was born it became physical. After the last episode of physical abuse, and me realizing she’s getting old enough to realize what it going on, I filed for divorce June 13th. At first my husband decided to be cordial and agree to split his military retirement 50/50 as I legally already qualify for. I agreed to allow him to keep our house and sign off on any equity in our home… which would be 80-100k. I wanted to sacrifice to get out. I agreed to 50/50 custody as to not be selfish, I know my child needs him in her life and he is important to her. He’s recently become more aggressive, to which I’ve made the decision multiple times after my child is asleep to leave to sleep at a friends house to not allow for any chance of escalation or danger. He has seen this a very threatening thing , me standing up for myself and has told me he will seek soul custody and fight me. I have no access to our savings. I only get what I came make biweekly at my job, which goes to child care, car, phone and utilities and then I’m left with nothing. I feel trapped. I have no way out financially. I scheduled a consultation w a lawyer two months ago and meet w then July 5th. I don’t even have the money at the moment for the consultation fee of $400 therefor I can’t fathom being able to hire them to support me. I grew up very poor, people bought us Christmas presents and paid for my camps. It’s not easy for me to ask for help. But even if you can donate $1 I’ll be so appreciative. And I promise when I get on my feet I’ll pay it forward as I previously have when I’ve been capable. I just need to get out of this toxic situation. I feel so helpless.
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Allison Lopez
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Lubbock, TX