Hello, my name is Lora and I am asking for your help. I honestly never in my life thought I would have to do this, but I have to try and fight for my love Christopher one last time so he can rest at peace.

Here is just a little bit of our journey together. It’s a lot to read so you can skip to the end if you prefer which is where you will find why I am asking for help.

Christopher was first diagnosed with heart failure in 2013. We met in October 2017 and it was instant fireworks and butterflies for me the second he came walking over and flashed me his goofy smile. I knew he was my person and that’s when our battle to save his life started. After years of countless appointments, blood draws, stress tests and being told he was a prime candidate for heart transplant…it didn’t matter. He had Nevada Medicaid for insurance and they do not cover heart transplants. His cardiologist at the time referred us to another cardiologist that he thought could help us. His new cardiologist was great, but we didn’t quite meet all the qualifications for transplant yet so we got to work. His failing heart caused him to retain fluids in his body and as time went on the meds stopped working and we were in/out of the hospital more and more. He went in to the hospital just after thanksgiving 2022 and missed Christmas 2022 and New Years going into 2023. He had to spend his 39th birthday in the hospital in 2023 as well. He spent most of 2023 in the hospital but it seemed like we were making progress because he came home in October 2023 and made it through November and was almost through December. I knew something was really wrong and December 31,2023 and had to rush him to the ER where he was admitted again and missing another New Year. This time he was diagnosed with liver and kidney failure on top of his heart failure. My heart sank hearing that. End of January 2024 we thought we finally had our prayers answered and were sent to UCSD so we could finally begin the transplant process. Another birthday was spent in the hospital, the big 40. After a month, we were notified they did not think he was a qualified candidate and would be going back home for end of life. Even with all of this we tried to stay positive and keep fighting. He came home on 3/22/24 and was building up strength every day. We even had a little date night on 3/29 to the movies, but I cut it short because I could see he was in pain even though he never complained. He just wanted to make me smile and spend time together outside of the house that wasn’t medically related. On Wednesday 4/3/24 he had fluids removed from his abdomen and then had dialysis that night. About 8:00pm on Thursday 4/4/24 we just finished dialysis and he said he had pain in his stomach. By the time we got home he was in soo much pain and an ambulance was called around 11:30pm. He had dialysis, fluids drained from his left lung and more fluids drained again from his abdomen on Friday 4/5/24. Saturday night we were moved to ICU and the surgeon came in to talk to the on call physician. I began asking questions and the surgeon just didn’t want to answer me. He was somewhat evasive and said he needed to talk to his colleagues. I felt like something must be wrong, but I didn’t know what since he wouldn’t say. I stayed with Christopher watching a movie on my phone till about 1:30am and then went home to take care of our fur babies and get some sleep. Just before 10:00am on Sunday 4/7/24 the doctor called and said there was nothing they could do for him and to get to the hospital immediately. The doctor said they did another scan after I left and determined he had a tear in his bowels and it went into his abdomen and was poisoning him.

He was my everything and I am devastated that his time on this Earth came to an end on Sunday 4/7/24 around 4:40pm. I was blessed to have Christopher as my partner in crime for almost 7 years. He had the biggest and kindest heart and always thought of everyone else. He loved everything about living life because he already knew his was going to be shorter than most. He made sure to make the most of it and always made me feel like I was his world. He always put on a front to hide his pain because he didn’t want anyone to worry over him. He made such an impact on everyone he met with his infectious personality and general goofiness. You just couldn’t help but love him and I loved him with all my heart and soul.

Now for the reason I am asking for help to honor Christopher’s final wishes. What I have written is just a brief taste of what he had to go through. He was a fighter till his last breath and I have always fought by his side. We were a team. Christopher’s final wishes were to have his ashes spread in Hawaii where he fell in love with Kua Bay and in Washington so a tree could be planted with his ashes. He loved nature and the idea of coming back as a tree he thought was just beautiful. I don’t want to go into details about all the truly horrible things his own mother did or said to him, but she is refusing to honor his last wishes out of spite for him, his sister and I. His sister and I want to honor his wishes and want to do everything possible to make it happen. Unfortunately this means we will have to fight their mom which means it will have to go to court because his sister is not the next of kin. His sister and I planned to give some of his ashes to his mom even after all the awful things that were done/said literally while he was passing in front of us. I have to believe that in her own twisted way she loved him…I just have to believe that. I am begging for help so his sister and I can lay him to rest and he can finally be at peace. I honestly have no idea what this will look like financially, but I know lawyers are not cheap & his mother will do everything in her power to stop us so we have to be as prepared as we can. We just want to do as he asked. If there are any funds left, they will go towards getting his ashes to Washington and Hawaii.

I just want to finish this by saying that in his final moments he was surrounded by his sister, me, my family (which is also his family) and his friends…all people who loved him soo much. We are beyond grateful for any help you can provide in making his final wishes happen.