Facial Feminization Surgery Fund for Frances

I am fundraising for facial feminization surgery. Full disclosure; I have a good income. I can afford basic expenses and leisure activities. I go to concerts, go on fun weekend trips, etc. periodically. However, facial feminization surgery costs A LOT of money. And insurance companies are highly inconsistent on whether they'll cover it at all and which parts they will cover. Facial feminization surgery is not "one surgery". Really, facial feminzation surgery consists of about 10 different possible procedures, and depending on the individual, the surgeon and patient figure out together which of these procedures are needed based on the shape of one's face to start out. (e.g. rhinoplasty, jaw contouring, etc.) So insurance can easily be like "We'll cover this procedure, but not that one or that one." Insurance companies like to label transgender healthcare as "cosmetic" and "not medically necessary. Grrr. And costs can easily get to $40,000 to $100,000 really quickly. But even if my insurance covers the full cost, I'm still likely going to have to save at least $20,000 total for travel expenses, lodging, my deductible, time off work, etc.

Even at my level of income, it may or may not be feasible to save that kind of money in 5 years or less (I have student loans and such too). And I had to wait decades before I could even start transitioning. I've missed too much of the life I want to have already. Because society censored transgender materials, I did not hear the word "transgender" until my 20s. I was forced to go through male puberty because I didn't know that I didn't have to. Because our society lied to me. I shouldn't need facial feminization surgery. I have to pay money to correct something I shouldn't have had to go through in the first place, and I might never have that kind of money. I want to look myself in the mirror and finally see 'me', 100% with no echos of "him". I like my face. However, when I see my face in the mirror, I also see these unsightly 'scars', in the way my jaw is shaped in particular. And those scars serve as a reminder of all the pain I dealt with in the past and still deal with in the present. Some of my 'scars' are beautiful. I love my trans girl shoulders. My arms look unique, different from cis women's arms, different from men's arms, but I like them that way. That 'scar' from male puberty actually looks pretty badass in my opinion. But the scars on my face I don't see the same way. They remind me of the life it feels like I can't have. They cause me to look in the mirror and see too much of 'him', the person I had to pretend to be for too long. I want these scars excised. I want facial feminization surgery. And I'm tired of waiting.