Eva Dandylion's Medical Expenses Recovery
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My desire to live was stronger than the fear I had of my pain taking my life.
“Give me a date.” Her seriousness in tone communicated that this was not a time to be joking around. “When are you doing this?” She asked.
“I don’t know, soon. Maybe.” I was being avoidant. We both knew that without accountability I would succumb to my habit of making everything and everyone else a priority over my own health. “No more excuses, give me a date.” “Umm uhhh April 4th.” “By April 4th you’re going to ask your community for the help you’ve needed for over a year, or I’m doing it for you.”
“......Okay.”
She was right to be so strict with me, I’ve needed this push, for much longer than I would like to admit.
It is so easy to divert and devote my attention to caretaking anyone else other than myself. At some point I decided that taking care of others was far more interesting and fulfilling and easier than the chore of meeting my own needs. I would more often throw in the towel prematurely when encountering obstacles in my healing process.
The shame accompanying this awareness kept me from reaching out for help sooner. Instead, I tried to single-handedly undo all the damage that was far past the point of my ability to repair alone. I hurt my body more by trying to carry this weight on my own.
What I know is that I want to get better so I can help people at my fullest capacity. I want to get better because I know I have more love to give. I want to get better because I have so much more to offer the world.
The gathering of community support in people’s times of need has been one of the most inspiring acts of generosity that I have ever had the pleasure of witnessing. It is without a doubt the fuel which feeds my own creativity. It is what feeds my desire to give back to the environment which raised me into the adult that I feel proud to be.
I want to honor my elders and give proper thanks to my mentors young and old.
I want to continue to live the example of showing up for my community when times are dark and we’ve forgotten how to love each other and ourselves.
In honor of these acts of self love that so many of us are trying to learn, trying to model for our children, I need to ask for support. As an educator, I need to live the lessons of self care that I encourage the youth in my life to pursue.
It’s time to end the stigma around interdependence.
There is nothing laudable about independence when those we love are suffering alone and in silence, “trying to be strong.” Strong for who? In the attempt to prove what?
We need each other.
We were not meant to do this alone.
Whatever our “this” is.
It’s the simple fact that continues to loop back to us over and over until the lesson has sunk in.
We need each other.
And I need you now.
The Basics: I’m soon to be $10,000 in debt. My medical expenses from diagnostics to treatment have never been covered by insurance. I spent the majority of my 20s working to pay off various therapies and medical bills. I’ve come a long way with my amazing team of healthcare practitioners and I’m ready to reclaim my body and feel optimal, truly for the first time in my life. I have a debilitating uterine condition which effects me every month up to 2 weeks a month. Alongside that, I’ve been dealing with a deep-set gum infection that has been present in my body for over a year. After my wisdom teeth extraction surgery I had multiple emergency dental interventions that have been unexpected and costly. The next step in this process is to get Invisalign, my teeth need to be shifted in order to cease this persistent and sometimes painful infection. I’m willing to share more details of my story in private. I'm still navigating how to share personal information publicly, thank you for your patience and understanding. I would like to raise the funds by my birthday, August 12th 2019 so I can welcome in and celebrate a pain-free new year. 10k will bring me back to zero. Zero is better than negative and y’all know I like to live above the negativity. Anything given beyond my goal will go towards treatments that I will need to maintain for the next year.
Thank you to everyone who has ever believed in me. This is the first time I have seen the finish line up ahead. I can finally see a life that transcends the constant stress and physical pain just over the horizon.
I would appreciate people sharing this link to your friend network. Along with sharing it, can you please share a sentence or two about how I’ve supported you over the years? Or an instance where I’ve touched your life in some way? That in itself would be a gift, whether or not you are able to donate. Please help me remember my contributions to our community so I can look forward to fulfilling the visions I have for our future.
I would love visibility around all donations so I can thank you personally. If someone prefers to contribute anonymously on the public GoFundMe page, please consider sending me a private note.
Please remember:
GoFundMe is a for-profit company. It takes 5 percent of donations raised on its platform. There is also a 2.9 percent payment-processing fee collected on each donation, along with 30 cents for every donation.
If anyone wants to help bypass the platform fees, you can send directly to my PayPal: [adresse e-mail supprimée] under the Send to Friends and Family option. I will give updates about the goal progress throughout the week.
“Give me a date.” Her seriousness in tone communicated that this was not a time to be joking around. “When are you doing this?” She asked.
“I don’t know, soon. Maybe.” I was being avoidant. We both knew that without accountability I would succumb to my habit of making everything and everyone else a priority over my own health. “No more excuses, give me a date.” “Umm uhhh April 4th.” “By April 4th you’re going to ask your community for the help you’ve needed for over a year, or I’m doing it for you.”
“......Okay.”
She was right to be so strict with me, I’ve needed this push, for much longer than I would like to admit.
It is so easy to divert and devote my attention to caretaking anyone else other than myself. At some point I decided that taking care of others was far more interesting and fulfilling and easier than the chore of meeting my own needs. I would more often throw in the towel prematurely when encountering obstacles in my healing process.
The shame accompanying this awareness kept me from reaching out for help sooner. Instead, I tried to single-handedly undo all the damage that was far past the point of my ability to repair alone. I hurt my body more by trying to carry this weight on my own.
What I know is that I want to get better so I can help people at my fullest capacity. I want to get better because I know I have more love to give. I want to get better because I have so much more to offer the world.
The gathering of community support in people’s times of need has been one of the most inspiring acts of generosity that I have ever had the pleasure of witnessing. It is without a doubt the fuel which feeds my own creativity. It is what feeds my desire to give back to the environment which raised me into the adult that I feel proud to be.
I want to honor my elders and give proper thanks to my mentors young and old.
I want to continue to live the example of showing up for my community when times are dark and we’ve forgotten how to love each other and ourselves.
In honor of these acts of self love that so many of us are trying to learn, trying to model for our children, I need to ask for support. As an educator, I need to live the lessons of self care that I encourage the youth in my life to pursue.
It’s time to end the stigma around interdependence.
There is nothing laudable about independence when those we love are suffering alone and in silence, “trying to be strong.” Strong for who? In the attempt to prove what?
We need each other.
We were not meant to do this alone.
Whatever our “this” is.
It’s the simple fact that continues to loop back to us over and over until the lesson has sunk in.
We need each other.
And I need you now.
The Basics: I’m soon to be $10,000 in debt. My medical expenses from diagnostics to treatment have never been covered by insurance. I spent the majority of my 20s working to pay off various therapies and medical bills. I’ve come a long way with my amazing team of healthcare practitioners and I’m ready to reclaim my body and feel optimal, truly for the first time in my life. I have a debilitating uterine condition which effects me every month up to 2 weeks a month. Alongside that, I’ve been dealing with a deep-set gum infection that has been present in my body for over a year. After my wisdom teeth extraction surgery I had multiple emergency dental interventions that have been unexpected and costly. The next step in this process is to get Invisalign, my teeth need to be shifted in order to cease this persistent and sometimes painful infection. I’m willing to share more details of my story in private. I'm still navigating how to share personal information publicly, thank you for your patience and understanding. I would like to raise the funds by my birthday, August 12th 2019 so I can welcome in and celebrate a pain-free new year. 10k will bring me back to zero. Zero is better than negative and y’all know I like to live above the negativity. Anything given beyond my goal will go towards treatments that I will need to maintain for the next year.
Thank you to everyone who has ever believed in me. This is the first time I have seen the finish line up ahead. I can finally see a life that transcends the constant stress and physical pain just over the horizon.
I would appreciate people sharing this link to your friend network. Along with sharing it, can you please share a sentence or two about how I’ve supported you over the years? Or an instance where I’ve touched your life in some way? That in itself would be a gift, whether or not you are able to donate. Please help me remember my contributions to our community so I can look forward to fulfilling the visions I have for our future.
I would love visibility around all donations so I can thank you personally. If someone prefers to contribute anonymously on the public GoFundMe page, please consider sending me a private note.
Please remember:
GoFundMe is a for-profit company. It takes 5 percent of donations raised on its platform. There is also a 2.9 percent payment-processing fee collected on each donation, along with 30 cents for every donation.
If anyone wants to help bypass the platform fees, you can send directly to my PayPal: [adresse e-mail supprimée] under the Send to Friends and Family option. I will give updates about the goal progress throughout the week.
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Eva DeWinter
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Greenfield, MA