Escaping from a dysfuncional family
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(Little correction: when i started the campaign, the plan was in fact, move to Izmir, however, my ex ended up getting accepted at Marmara University in Istanbul and i ended up meeting people from Istanbul in the last months, so, the plan keeps the same but with the difference that i'm moving to Istanbul. i'm correcting that in the text right now.)
(Little update: some people thought this is a scam. I totally understand why people think that. For that reason, i added some screenshots of conversations i have with some of my friends about my family and about how it affect me.) Hello! First of all, thank you for reading this text. Whether you donate or not and regardless of whether how much you’ll donate (if you donate), I appreciate the fact you're reading this.
In this text I’ll tell you my history, why I’m moving to Turkey and why I’m asking your help to do it.
I'm 18 years old. I live in Lisbon, Portugal, and I come from a super dysfunctional family.
My father is addicted to alcohol and my mother is verbally aggressive. I have a 34-year-old brother who moved to Switzerland in 2016 and a sister, who’s almost 39. I never met her because she ran away from home at age of 18 to escape from my parents.
My parents discuss on a daily basis. Sometimes, they almost fight physically. My mother sleeps in the room that was my brother's room and my father sleeps in the room that was his and my mother’s room. They don't talk much but, when they do, they argue.
Apart from this, my father studied until he was 10 and my mother has some health conditions (both mental and physical) that don't make possible for her to work.
Because of that and also because of my father’s alcoholism, my parents can't pay the bills. So, every month my father has to pawn things we have at home to pay them.
As I said, my brother lives in Switzerland. He lived with my parents until 2016.
He was my father figure and super hero in my childhood. He introduced me to a lot of music from the 90s, such as Guns N' Roses, Blur or Queen, that I keep hearing on a daily basis and a lot of shows.
However, when he moved, this event killed any positive thoughts I could have. It made me enter a depressive hole I was already entering due to bullying (that I always suffered at school), along with my struggle to make friends and domestic life.
(I don't want this text to be huge so I’ll just write a few more paragraphs, thank you for reading until here!)
For 4 years I’ve tried to convince him that I was feeling horrible, that problems at home were only getting worse, but I heard things like: "Depression doesn't exist" "Stop to pretend you feel bad", etc.
So, as I said, my family isn't the best. (Apart of my brother and my parents, I only know my sister who always rejected everything related to me and my family, my grandparents from mother side of the family and the children of my sister that I haven't seen since my childhood.
Apart from all of this, my birth was also premature, so I was born with some sickness.
I was born with ADHD, Asperger Syndrome, a Micro Cerebral Palsy, Asthma, Reflux Disease and some other health conditions.
(If you want to know more about my story, send me a DM on Instagram, @_drudas
I just won’t add more here because the text is getting too long)
Now it comes the part where I tell you why I need money.
In 2017/2018 I met a girl on Instagram, this year we started to get closer and on 20 of may we started to date. around august we broke up but we’re still friends and we plan to live in the same city and go out a lot.
She’s from Kayseri (central Turkey) and we’re moving to Istanbul, where she got accepted in a university.
Since my childhood, I want to move out of home. At age of 8/9 I planned to escape of home to escape my parents. When I was 14, I tried to get money to move and, at age of 16, I tried to obtain legal emancipation.
So, to escape from my family, I’m moving to Turkey. It's cheap to live there, my ex will help me. I just want to restart from scratch in a new country. I’ve been feeling extremely depressed and suicidal since I was 13 and I’ve always heard my mother telling to kill myself, also my parents ignoring me telling that I feel suicidal.
I don't know if you’re willing to help me to escape from my family and restart from scratch but if you are, here is a list of how I’ll use your money. Every help is welcome, whatever may be 1 euro/dollar or one thousand.
List of Expenses:
65 euros - passport
20 euros - tourist visa (I’ll enter with a tourist visa and apply for a working or studying one after moving there.)
400/500 euros - flight tickets (a single ticket, plus a return ticket in case something goes wrong)
3715 euros - sustain myself for 12 months in Turkey. (i already made maths about it, with all the bills, food, and some leisure i need around 300/350 euros per month)
100 Euros - Mandatory Coronavirus test, without it, i can't travel.
150 Euros - A Hotel Room or a AirBnb for the first 14 days in Istanbul while i search for a flat and get one.
50 Euros - Food to eat during those 2 weeks.
- Thank you for reading this! If you want more info, send me a DM on Instagram, @_drudas
(Little update: some people thought this is a scam. I totally understand why people think that. For that reason, i added some screenshots of conversations i have with some of my friends about my family and about how it affect me.) Hello! First of all, thank you for reading this text. Whether you donate or not and regardless of whether how much you’ll donate (if you donate), I appreciate the fact you're reading this.
In this text I’ll tell you my history, why I’m moving to Turkey and why I’m asking your help to do it.
I'm 18 years old. I live in Lisbon, Portugal, and I come from a super dysfunctional family.
My father is addicted to alcohol and my mother is verbally aggressive. I have a 34-year-old brother who moved to Switzerland in 2016 and a sister, who’s almost 39. I never met her because she ran away from home at age of 18 to escape from my parents.
My parents discuss on a daily basis. Sometimes, they almost fight physically. My mother sleeps in the room that was my brother's room and my father sleeps in the room that was his and my mother’s room. They don't talk much but, when they do, they argue.
Apart from this, my father studied until he was 10 and my mother has some health conditions (both mental and physical) that don't make possible for her to work.
Because of that and also because of my father’s alcoholism, my parents can't pay the bills. So, every month my father has to pawn things we have at home to pay them.
As I said, my brother lives in Switzerland. He lived with my parents until 2016.
He was my father figure and super hero in my childhood. He introduced me to a lot of music from the 90s, such as Guns N' Roses, Blur or Queen, that I keep hearing on a daily basis and a lot of shows.
However, when he moved, this event killed any positive thoughts I could have. It made me enter a depressive hole I was already entering due to bullying (that I always suffered at school), along with my struggle to make friends and domestic life.
(I don't want this text to be huge so I’ll just write a few more paragraphs, thank you for reading until here!)
For 4 years I’ve tried to convince him that I was feeling horrible, that problems at home were only getting worse, but I heard things like: "Depression doesn't exist" "Stop to pretend you feel bad", etc.
So, as I said, my family isn't the best. (Apart of my brother and my parents, I only know my sister who always rejected everything related to me and my family, my grandparents from mother side of the family and the children of my sister that I haven't seen since my childhood.
Apart from all of this, my birth was also premature, so I was born with some sickness.
I was born with ADHD, Asperger Syndrome, a Micro Cerebral Palsy, Asthma, Reflux Disease and some other health conditions.
(If you want to know more about my story, send me a DM on Instagram, @_drudas
I just won’t add more here because the text is getting too long)
Now it comes the part where I tell you why I need money.
In 2017/2018 I met a girl on Instagram, this year we started to get closer and on 20 of may we started to date. around august we broke up but we’re still friends and we plan to live in the same city and go out a lot.
She’s from Kayseri (central Turkey) and we’re moving to Istanbul, where she got accepted in a university.
Since my childhood, I want to move out of home. At age of 8/9 I planned to escape of home to escape my parents. When I was 14, I tried to get money to move and, at age of 16, I tried to obtain legal emancipation.
So, to escape from my family, I’m moving to Turkey. It's cheap to live there, my ex will help me. I just want to restart from scratch in a new country. I’ve been feeling extremely depressed and suicidal since I was 13 and I’ve always heard my mother telling to kill myself, also my parents ignoring me telling that I feel suicidal.
I don't know if you’re willing to help me to escape from my family and restart from scratch but if you are, here is a list of how I’ll use your money. Every help is welcome, whatever may be 1 euro/dollar or one thousand.
List of Expenses:
65 euros - passport
20 euros - tourist visa (I’ll enter with a tourist visa and apply for a working or studying one after moving there.)
400/500 euros - flight tickets (a single ticket, plus a return ticket in case something goes wrong)
3715 euros - sustain myself for 12 months in Turkey. (i already made maths about it, with all the bills, food, and some leisure i need around 300/350 euros per month)
100 Euros - Mandatory Coronavirus test, without it, i can't travel.
150 Euros - A Hotel Room or a AirBnb for the first 14 days in Istanbul while i search for a flat and get one.
50 Euros - Food to eat during those 2 weeks.
- Thank you for reading this! If you want more info, send me a DM on Instagram, @_drudas
Organizer
Pedro Gonçalves
Organizer
Oeiras, São Vicente, Portugal
