
Emergency Home for Heidi
Donation protected
Immune Compromised, Disabled, Aspergers.
I needed a safe stable home and medical advocacy.
A person offered that beginning of the pandemic. After I moved in, I was coerced into a relationship/sex. I became suicidal and shut down for a long time while it continued. When I tried to get distance to process he threatened me with an ultimatum, he got the behavior he wanted, I went suicidal. An intervention happened with the help of his friends, his behavior reduced but he never stopped. He felt entitled to his behavior because of how he was helping me. I couldn't go to a shelter due to my immune condition. Everyone from his friends to his and I mutual therapist told me not to tell him of my plans to leave for my safety and my social workers/case workers from insurance knew and had been trying for months to find a safe place so I won't die of covid. There are NO SHELTERS FOR IMMUNE COMPROMISED DISABLED PEOPLE. Six months after moving in, after months of failure to find a safe exit, I desperately started posting on fb for friends to help even though I knew there was a risk he'd see it. One friend figured out what was going on and called the cops who were more concerned with whether or not I was drinking when incidences happened, did not call Adult Protective Services, did not do a protection order, I was left alone without protection with the man and his friend while they packed an overnight bag to stay at his friend's and told to expect that they could show up at any minute to pick up more of his stuff over the next few days which they did without warning and I had to cram a tshirt against my face for hours hiding in the furthest corner of my room away from them since I couldn't get to my mask during which time I passed out from overheating because they shut the door to me from the ac.
I spent all my energy between debilitating symptoms, hopelessness and terror talking to social workers/case workers/APS all week with next to no sleep for solutions. As they had taken my set of keys, I could not go to 3 doctor appts I had this week.
Now I'm about to be evicted and placed in a shelter because there is nothing else my social worker and APS knows what to do. Possibly on Monday.
My symptoms make everything confusing. It took several hours to get this far on making/writing this fundraiser. I'm overwhelmed. He was my caretaker and advocate. I need an advocate to help me with such things because of the way I am disabled. I expect to be forced into a shelter on Mon or abandoned into a temp situation. I expect to have no aid defending myself and for him to slander me across the court with the help of his friends and get away with what he's done if I don't die from covid at the shelter first. I don't know what to decide about anything in any way and am debilitated on choosing what I should do to not die.
Help me buy more time at an air bnb or month to month rental for my social workers and APS to attempt to find me a long term housing solution.
I need to stay in Los Angeles county for medical reasons and need stability to apply for SSI.
Average rent per month is $1700 to $2500, I picked $2000 since it's sorta in the middle.
$2000 = 1 month of time for social workers to find safe long term housing
$4000 = 2 months of time (they've been trying to for months already, the pandemic has overloaded the system)
$6000 = 3 months of time
Etc.
I cannot function most of the time and cannot decide anything clearly.
I need an advocate.
I need legal support.
I need help running this fundraiser.
I need support asap. I do not know when I'll be evicted because they took the keys and I cannot check the mail for the notice even if I was capable of getting out to check it every day which I'm too disabled to do.
I need hope because all I see right now is impending death or to survive tortured by symptoms without healthcare advocacy and to be punished for telling the cops what happened in a world that protects men like him.
I needed a safe stable home and medical advocacy.
A person offered that beginning of the pandemic. After I moved in, I was coerced into a relationship/sex. I became suicidal and shut down for a long time while it continued. When I tried to get distance to process he threatened me with an ultimatum, he got the behavior he wanted, I went suicidal. An intervention happened with the help of his friends, his behavior reduced but he never stopped. He felt entitled to his behavior because of how he was helping me. I couldn't go to a shelter due to my immune condition. Everyone from his friends to his and I mutual therapist told me not to tell him of my plans to leave for my safety and my social workers/case workers from insurance knew and had been trying for months to find a safe place so I won't die of covid. There are NO SHELTERS FOR IMMUNE COMPROMISED DISABLED PEOPLE. Six months after moving in, after months of failure to find a safe exit, I desperately started posting on fb for friends to help even though I knew there was a risk he'd see it. One friend figured out what was going on and called the cops who were more concerned with whether or not I was drinking when incidences happened, did not call Adult Protective Services, did not do a protection order, I was left alone without protection with the man and his friend while they packed an overnight bag to stay at his friend's and told to expect that they could show up at any minute to pick up more of his stuff over the next few days which they did without warning and I had to cram a tshirt against my face for hours hiding in the furthest corner of my room away from them since I couldn't get to my mask during which time I passed out from overheating because they shut the door to me from the ac.
I spent all my energy between debilitating symptoms, hopelessness and terror talking to social workers/case workers/APS all week with next to no sleep for solutions. As they had taken my set of keys, I could not go to 3 doctor appts I had this week.
Now I'm about to be evicted and placed in a shelter because there is nothing else my social worker and APS knows what to do. Possibly on Monday.
My symptoms make everything confusing. It took several hours to get this far on making/writing this fundraiser. I'm overwhelmed. He was my caretaker and advocate. I need an advocate to help me with such things because of the way I am disabled. I expect to be forced into a shelter on Mon or abandoned into a temp situation. I expect to have no aid defending myself and for him to slander me across the court with the help of his friends and get away with what he's done if I don't die from covid at the shelter first. I don't know what to decide about anything in any way and am debilitated on choosing what I should do to not die.
Help me buy more time at an air bnb or month to month rental for my social workers and APS to attempt to find me a long term housing solution.
I need to stay in Los Angeles county for medical reasons and need stability to apply for SSI.
Average rent per month is $1700 to $2500, I picked $2000 since it's sorta in the middle.
$2000 = 1 month of time for social workers to find safe long term housing
$4000 = 2 months of time (they've been trying to for months already, the pandemic has overloaded the system)
$6000 = 3 months of time
Etc.
I cannot function most of the time and cannot decide anything clearly.
I need an advocate.
I need legal support.
I need help running this fundraiser.
I need support asap. I do not know when I'll be evicted because they took the keys and I cannot check the mail for the notice even if I was capable of getting out to check it every day which I'm too disabled to do.
I need hope because all I see right now is impending death or to survive tortured by symptoms without healthcare advocacy and to be punished for telling the cops what happened in a world that protects men like him.
Co-organizers (2)
Heidi Gaines
Organizer
Costa Mesa, CA
Meg MacDougall
Co-organizer