Hi! For those of you who don’t know me, I’m Amanda, I’m 53 years old. I have always been very independent and have enjoyed working as a DJ for the last 20ish years, meeting some fantastic people and making some amazing memories along the way. Being amongst other people is always something I’ve enjoyed as I am very social as most of you will know.

Unfortunately in December of 2024 I acquired what seemed to start as some kind of sciatica / hip pain that shot down into my leg. Upon further investigation, the doctors found this to be a stage 4 aggressive high grade cancer of the womb which has spread - how far we still don’t know.

Weeks were spent on and off in hospital, having Ascites (Fluid) drained from my abdomen as the cancer had caused a fluid build up not just in my abdomen, but my lung also. On my first visit to Margate Hospital, I had somewhere around 9 Litres of fluid drained from my abdomen, and 3 Litres of fluid drained from my lung. As soon as I would come home, within days the fluid would build up and I’d have to travel an hour and a half back again, to be admitted for more draining as they had no one closer to do this. I’d never been prodded and poked so much. I’d grown so tired of the extensive tests, but knew I had to keep fighting.

After speaking with my consultant, she told me at present there is no straight cure, as the cancer was aggressive and had spread. Therefore, their only way of helping me was palliative care, to make me more comfortable in my daily life and see if the cancer would respond, however there was and still is no guarantee of curing this nasty battle I’m facing.

I had a kidney function test, and some bloods done. From there they wanted to start me on chemotherapy, Carboplatin was the name of the drug used. So far, I’ve had 2 short sessions, which after my third this week, will be increasing with another drug added called Paclitaxel. I’m having sessions every 3 weeks so far. I can’t say the sessions have been easy nor kind so far, however I can say I have taken each one in my stride, and continue to fight to get better.

This battle has turned my life completely upside down, I’ve gone from working each weekend and being totally active, to being bed bound in a hospital bed stuck in the corner of my living room, hoping I’ll be given the chance to see a tomorrow.

At present I have carers coming in twice daily to help me with washing, cleaning and daily needs, as due to the constant drain in my abdomen and my now limited mobility, I can’t get in a bath or shower as the drain site is not allowed to get wet. I have to go to shops and be pushed around by friends or my children, something I never imagined I’d be doing. I have district nurses visiting each week, originally it was every day draining a whole litre of fluid from my abdomen, and now they come less as the fluid seems to be slowing down. But for how long; again is another mystery.

I am fighting so hard for my 5 wonderful children, Gary, David, Rachel, Freddie, and Charlie. And for my amazing Grandchildren whom I love all very much. I want to be around for them, and make amazing memories I’ve not yet had a chance to do.

I’ve set this go fund me up to help towards various costs, as I’ve now got carers coming in which I may have to pay for, I’m waiting to find out. Without the carers coming in, I would really be struggling with my daily life. I am also fighting to get back to working, and seeing your wonderful singing and dancing. However I am struggling to keep my cherished business going without much money coming in. Alongside this, if life really decides to be cruel, I’d like the chance to make some good memories with my children, as I cherish them with my whole heart. I also have started with hair thinning due to the chemo, so I may lose my hair and would like to get a wig, or chemo hats so I don’t feel so self conscious.

More recently, to add another hit to the situation, they’ve found a blood clot in my left leg, which has caused my leg to be very hot, painful and swollen. They told me this could take months to disperse.

I will keep fighting and I thank those who continuously keep my spirits high, and I will update this post as soon as I know any more news. I pray that the cancer will respond to the chemo, and I will be given the chance to get better.

Please share this far and wide, any donation is gratefully received no matter how small. ❤️