Dylan's funeral and help for his family part 2

My name is Angel and my son was tragically taken from me.

“Though he was 27, he carried the heart and perspective of an 8-year-old, which made his joy and wonder all the more pure. He was born medically fragile and a micro preemie. He fought his whole life and we became medical refugees years ago. His quality of life and absence of multiple seizures a day improved dramatically! He was a joy, funny, and so handsome. I was his only sole caregiver. It was my greatest honor, though hard at times without family or friends or respite across the country from what used to be home. Dylan had lost weight due to dental surgeries and multiple rounds of C. diff over the last 8 months. We had been to specialized doctors and had been seeking a temporary feeding tube to help him get some weight on him. He had 16 brain surgeries through his beautiful life for hydrocephalus and due to that, he also had something called neurogenic vomiting disorder (similar to cyclical vomiting disorder but worse). Dylan also had autism and cerebral palsy and other conditions with his rare epilepsy disorder. Despite ALL of that, he fought and overcame every medical situation for 27 years. He truly was a warrior. I gave birth to my hero.

Mid-July, 2025, I took Dylan to a larger town and a hospital we had previously been at for treatment of a potential bowel obstruction (which was RULED OUT). The main focus was getting a special feeding tube that allowed him to still have his vomiting disorder but not lose nutrients. We only wanted it for a few months so that he could safely gain weight back as he finally got rid of C. diff. There were some very awful and negligent acts that happened at the hospital. In fact, I was so scared I began posting videos live on my social media because I was scared, confused, sleep-deprived, and furious my child was being treated in such a horrible manner. I won't go into detail but due to the actions of multiple negligent people at a hospital, my son ended up with abdominal compartment syndrome. After days of horrible withdrawals from his proper daily medication regime, nobody would get me help as I screamed and begged for hours as his tummy swelled and he went through withdrawals and pain. It was horrific and he coded in front of me. They didn't take it seriously until then and by then it was too late. This all unfolded before my friends and family on social media as I was all alone in a different state with my precious child.

I am raising money again and I say again because my beautiful friend started a GoFundMe to help with travel expenses (we were out of state at this bigger hospital), lodging expenses as my other child and husband had to travel there during this time. I was a paid caregiver for my son but that ended when he passed. My husband lost nearly a month of work and we had to travel multiple times from Colorado to New Mexico for this situation, including picking up his cremains. We paid for gas, cremation, a beautiful urn, lodging, bills in July, etc. with the GoFundMe my beautiful friend started.

Today I am starting this one that is a little clearer on my son's story and very clear that this is for his celebration of life/funeral I'm planning and to help provide for me and my family while I get mental health help for myself and my daughter (and husband through the VA, my daughter and I have private insurance). I can't go to work currently in my mental state of extreme distress, trauma, and horrific PTSD. I also hurt my back during this and have been grieving mentally and emotionally but also physically. I do not plan to stay down long. I know I have to go be a member of society and contribute and pay my own bills, but I'm begging for help just for a bit to give me time to wrap my brain around this. Dylan was my world and my best buddy and the trauma suffered is unbearable, the loss is unspeakable and I have to try and get help for myself and my beautiful other child and not worry about if we can catch up, keep our insurance, home, and power on. I want to be able to plan and give him the most beautiful memorial and service that I can. I'm doing it all alone. Anything helps and GoFundMe does take a chunk so if you would like to help our family without big fees, my other means of help are:

Cashapp $angelsalter1980

Paypal @[email redacted]

Venmo @angelsalter1980

I can also be reached at [email redacted]

My son was loved, cherished and didn't deserve this. He was important, funny, and smart. His childlike wonder was a treasure on this earth and it is desperately missed. I promised him I'd always keep him safe and now he is gone. Please help me get the help I need to cope and continue to be a good mama to my beautiful daughter. If you have any questions, please reach out or find me on FB under Angel Thrasher. Bless you