December 7th, 2019, later today is going to be my bro’s funeral and a few hours ago, I found out that sissy (Jeannette, wife) is going into debt to bury her husband. This broke my heart as we have already lost my bro, Hai Ngo on 11/30/2019.
Hai was only 38 years old and we were fortunate enough to celebrate his birthday with him on Thanksgiving, only to mourn his lost two days later. Hai had been battling Burkett’s Lymphoma since February 2019, unfortunately the cancer was growing to rapidly and the doctors couldn’t do anything to help. During his last words to us, he asked for more chemo even though the chemo would kill him and the doctors had already told us that they couldn’t continue treatment. He fought until the end, with everything he had to give.
Hai was an amazing person. I met him in 2003 and we had become really good friends. I called him “bro” and he called me “sissy” because in 2010, he had married my good friend Jeannette and she was nicknamed my “sissy.” It was only natural that after their wedding he was my bro!
I was so proud of him because he had decided to go back to school.
Soon he had graduated top of is class in radiology school and would become a radiologist. He just started living his life. He was happily married, graduated school and had started his new contract job as a radiologist at the hospital. He had three girls, one a senior in HS, a two year old and a 6 week old.
We didn’t expect that Hai would lose his battle to cancer. Through his fight, he had the upper hand. His oncologist was so positive that she wanted to go for cure. It was just one day after he was diagnosed with cancer that Jeannette found out she was pregnant with baby number 3. Juliet came into the world and Hai was able to celebrate her arrival but four days after her birth, Hai was admitted to the hospital and he wouldn’t be able to spend time with Juliet until she was 6 weeks old and the doctors had decided that there was nothing more they could do for him. This was devastating news for Hai and his family, the doctor finally wrote orders which would grant baby Juliet visitation rights, to spend time with her dad. Shortly after, Hai passed away.
It breaks my heart, as he will not be able to see his girls grow, graduate, marry, etc. Kayla is 17, Hailey is 2 and Juliet is now7 weeks. This is the most unreal situation I have ever been faced it.
I am asking for everyone to please come together and help Hai’s family cover the cost of his funeral and also help build a college fund for his girls. I really appreciate anyone’s consideration. It would mean the world to me but more importantly, it would be priceless for his kids and family.
Here is to Hai! We love you dearly and will always remember your unconditional love!
Gone to soon.