Donate to help us on our journey to Baby No.2

Before Adam and I even got married we always knew that we wanted to start a family.

We started trying for a baby and it took a little longer than expected initially however we finally got the positive result we’d been so looking forward to about 10months later. Absolutely over the moon and so excited that this was ACTUALLY happening! We went to Spain with family for a holiday and at this point I was about 7 weeks pregnant…. That’s when this rollercoaster that we are still on started!

Day 2 of the holiday and my worst fears became true, I was bleeding. We went straight to the hospital to be told that I had miscarried. Our world fell apart at this stage… you never think it’s going to happen to you!

We then fell pregnant again very soon after and once again around week 8 the bleeding started and I knew it was gone again…. Why us? What’s wrong with me? Are we ever going to be parents? All questions i asked myself time and time again!

Then in January 2019 very unexpectedly another positive pregnancy test… 3rd time lucky we told ourselves! We now had the anxious wait for a scan with every twinge and niggle causing a spike in my anxiety levels. This time though it worked and in September 2019 we welcomed our gorgeous little boy Reggie into the world! The fog definitely lifted that day and I have never felt anything like the love I have for that little man. Little did he know that he was going to carry us through so much more pain and heart ache in the years to come.

Towards the end of 2020 we decided we would start trying for another child, very quickly a positive result came, I felt relaxed… I’ve done it once, my body knows what it’s doing now, it’s all going to be fine! WRONG!

We have gone on to have a further 3 miscarriages, all within the same time period 7-9 weeks gestation. Our world has been a dark place and at times it has been difficult to “dust ourselves off”.

Now that we have had 3 consecutive miscarriages we qualify for the Recurrent Miscarriage clinic however the timelines are long and we can’t keep waiting… our biological clocks are ticking and we need these questions in our heads answered. We have therefore decided to pay for the investigatory tests and procedures in the hope of speeding up the process which in turn will provide some answers.

As I am sure you can imagine this is very stretching for us financially and obviously not something we had planned for. In total we estimated the cost to be between £5,000 - £6000 so we have decided we would like to raise some money to help us on this journey and to hopefully give Reggie the little brother or sister that we all wish for.

Being a family of 3 is amazing but there really is nothing we would like more than being able to give Reggie a little Brother or Sister. It is so hard thinking we may never be able to give him the gift of being a Big Brother.

We will also be paying forward some of the money raised to Tommy’s, a charity that believes every baby lost is one too many. Tommy’s exists to support, care for and champion people, no matter where they may be on their pregnancy journey.

We appreciate that it is a difficult time for everyone with price increases everywhere and want you all to know that we do not expect anything from you. Anything we do raise will be a total bonus and we really appreciate you just visiting our page and getting this far in reading our story.

If nothing else we hope that by sharing our story it helps to further normalise a subject that has been so stigmatised for so long and encourage others to open up, share and get the support they need as they navigate such a painful experience.