Domestic Abuse-Immediate help needed. Please give.

I am opening this go fund me for my dearest friend's daughter, I am not sharing her name to keep her safe. She is a lovely woman in an extremely abusive marriage and she is in fear for her life. I am trying to raise $5,500 to retain a lawyer and start divorce proceedings.

She is financially strapped at this time as a result of physical abuse by her husband. He wrenched her arm behind her back so high that her fingers touched the back of her neck. He tore a tendon in her elbow and she will have to have surgery to repair it on his health plan before they divorce.

She is on medical leave from her med tech job as she cannot work at her specialty and so she can attend daily psychiatric (5 days a week) and weekly physical therapy appointments  for the emotional and physical  trauma she has suffered at his hands.

She is in a 2 year marriage with this man who is a complete narcissist. He hurls false accusations at her daily as well as lying to her and gas lighting her.   He moved her several states away from her family to his hometown to isolate her from her family, thus allowing his family to join in verbally assaulting her as well, under the guise that his job was there.

Not only has he choked her to the point of passing out, leaving bruises on her neck. He pushes her into walls and leaving bruises all over her back and arms. She has been afraid to report it to police as it's a small "good ole boy" town and he has threatened to kill her if she does so. The one time she got the nerve up to try to call police he took her phone and threw it into a field.

His mother has made verbal death threats and attacked her at family functions, in front of her daughter, and the entire family stood watching with no intervention. When she wanted to report it, her husband said they don't call the police in their family they just handle things themselves. 

She has been stuck with no local family support, no friends during the times she's had two surgeries (one major, one minor) and she really needed help. She had to fly in a friend to take care of her and her daughter due to these surgeries. He even sold her car back to the dealer during this time and she was only able to get it back because her doctor wrote a letter to the dealer stating that she had been in hospital during the time he sold it.  

He badgers her about her weight and her health conditions (some of which were caused by him) and his want to make her sleep with him at will. Against Her Will! He has forcefully taken what he wanted sexually and hurt her in the process. She has been forced to send her daughter to live with her friend 3 states away to protect her from his emotional, verbal and mental abuse and also the possibility of sexual abuse as he is a porn addict who likes "teenage"  porn. At first he denied this, but then later contradicted & then defended himself by saying "they are all over 18".

He does nothing to contribute to the bills & upkeep of the house anymore, inside or out, including the care of the animals (his own included). He is also cruel to all her animals and refuses to care for his own dog. He spends his time off work watching tv, video games, eating or sleeping and continuously sexually harassing her. He is much stronger than her and even though she cries and tries to fight he overpowers her.

He has moved his father in against her wishes. His father also does nothing to help out with bills, or in keeping the house or yard, and lives like a slob in his room to include using his bedroom closet as a trash can. She never gets a break from her husband or his father at home, and his sister has joined in bullying her when she comes over. 

He has told her on many occasions that she should just kill herself, that no one would care. And that if he could kill her without consequences, he would. He says he can't wait to get the news that she has committed suicide, he's looking forward to it.

This is just a snippet of the things she has been subjected to in the last two years. The verbal assaults have been cruel and demeaning, the constant mind games, and all the physical/sexual abuse, etc. has taken a huge toll on her mental health and outlook. She has attempted numerous times to try and get them into counselling and begged him to get help for his angry outbursts, but he just blames her for his behavior. He tells her he is nice to people he cares about... and that he hates her and she is responsible for how he treats her, denying any wrongdoing or fault in the decline of their marriage. 

I have known her since she was 11 or 12 years old. I watched her grow from a sweet young girl into a well educated, kind, caring woman who has raised two amazing daughters on her own. She will be able to make a good life for herself and  her youngest daughter if she could just escape this horrible situation. Thank goodness her oldest daughter is an adult, not living with them, and not affected by him.

To those of you in my life who know or can guess their names.. please do not use their real names in any comments you make, so as to keep them safe. 

My husband and I are donating $400 to this go fund me and I ask my friends and family to donate to our Worthy Cause! She and her daughter are sooooo worth saving ❤‍

Thank you all most sincerely ❤

Julie Smith Lemonte. Class of '82