Tony’s Traumatic Brain Injury

I’m Armani, fiancé to Tony who suffered a horrific accident in our home from falling down the stairs. On Apr 5, 2018 what seemed like a normal day of us getting ready to head to my grandmothers hospital turned into one of the worst days of our lives. Tony actually died at the hospital, was revived and remained comatose for almost 3 weeks. In that time, he developed a swollen brain, collapsed lung, pneumonia, and more complications that he still has and lives with everyday.  Not only has this been one of the most difficult times in my life, but being faced with losing my best friend made it all the more painful. Tony was there for me everyday while dealing with my grandmothers sickness which subsequently left her in a coma as well two months earlier in February. At 93 my grandmother had overcome a small bowel obstruction surgery which led to catching pneumonia right after surgery and being critically sick in ICU for weeks in a coma, with little chance of survival as well. Some support has been from my dad and he has been there to make sure I am taking care of myself. Unfortunately my mother passed away when I was 5 months old but I know I would have had her support as well. Our road, and I say "our" because its always been Tony and I, has been so very rough since but everyday I have hope.Although we were to get married this summer and missed that opportunity, I still want to marry him. I would do anything for him and if I had the resources I would get the best of everything to ensure his success.  


UPDATE 1/8/19: Tony's trach has been removed and he is doing much better and has no more infection in his throat. Although we had an emergency chest tube procedure to remove fluid from his lungs due to aspiration pneumonia, since then he has recovered.

The fund would basically cover all Medical, & financial bills that continue to pile up. I would to be able to afford a new home in NYC equip with everything he needs, which I believe would make it easier for me to maintain his needs, and my grandmothers together as well. I have been trying to manage and maintain. I’d like to put down on a place in NY a condo for all of us, but if not then to help with buying a van, and all extra modifications not covered by insurance also.

If I had one wish it would be to rewind that day but I can't and that's something that plagues me every SINGLE day. I feel responsible because I asked him to go upstairs and get the laundry bag, and if I would have just done it myself this never would have happened. Watching a loved one in any pain is heart wrenching but I know there is hope because we have each other, and we believe we can get through this as hard as it is.Eventually once things are somewhat managed and he is home, I want to become a nurse and be able to better care for Tony, my grandmother, and others.I will never give up on him, on us and on our love. 
Thank you for taking the time to read our story and know that any and everything helps.I don't know you and you may not know me but I appreciate it all. The kind words, and sentiments we receive everyday from people we don't know makes a world of difference.I believe this is what makes humanity. So again thank you and I wish you peace and love through out your own journey. 

Armani & Tony