disabled single mother of two seeks assistance (read story)

Hello, I am Kayla, a disabled single mom to 2 who has survived Domestic Violence from my youngest child's father. I am also an alcoholic in recovery for nearly 7 years now. It has been a very long year and a half for me and my family. I made this gofund me to help raise funds to get a used vehicle for us. a reliable vehicle would mean not only allowing us transportation to medical appointments and places like the grocery store —but it would also help me to be able to go to classes and school to further my education and help support and provide stability for my family. because of my disability, I cannot work a job where I am on my feet for hours or sitting on a hard surface for hours . any kind d of help is appreciated, and I love you guys exponentially!

Here is my story:

in November 2023 when the father to my youngest child found out I was pregnant..he decided to take matters into his own hands and multiple times held me down and tried to terminate the pregnancy. On November 13, 2023, he got in an accident and damage my vehicle. leaving my entire front bumper, liscense plate, and headlight behind. this and a welfare check is what brought police to our door in the early morning hours of Nov 14, 2023. when i answered the door and the poliece saw the state of me they arrested him on the spot. I had a black eye, fat lip, and 38 seperate bites or bruises. he is now in prison for domestic violence until 2026.

this was the start of a downfall for me. I did decide to keep the baby. she is now almost 10 months, happy and healthy. my son was not harmed at all and only witnessed the physical. bruises and bites on me. we continued on to find some sort of normalcy.

December 17, 2023: i couldn't breathe and I had severe pain in my ribs area. we drove to the ER and I was diagnosed with a pulmonary embolisim (a blood clot in my lungs) and Deep Vein Thrombosis (where blood clots form in my leg(s) and can break apart and travel to my lungs, heart, or brain causing pulmonaryembolism, heart attack, or stroke). I had to give myself shots in the stomach for at least the entire pregnancy. it also made my pregnancy high risk. if I'm on my feet or sitting down too long my leg(s) will start to swell and I develop blood clots. my goals of finding work were haulted until after my pregnancy.

February 2024: i was exhausted, couldn't breathe well, and felt week. after talking to my doctor I found out that I was extremely anemic and needed a 5 hour iron infusion. doctor thinks my stomach doesn't absorb iron very well. I had that done and now I need one every few months.

we were accepted into a family shelter in April, 2024. Just in time to get ready for the baby. while I had not been working I had been going to mom groups multiple times a week, mental health therapy for PTSD weekly, and a psychiatrist every 2 weeks. I also had been finding a community and sober support system here in coastal oregon.

June 26, 2024: i woke up with unbearable pain on my left leg. my leg was swollen twice it's size and I could barely walk i needed to sit and take a break every few steps because if pain.. I was 9 mo pregnant and had been taking my blood medication along with all my other vitamins and medications. I had an appointment for the next day so I waited for that. on

June 27,2024 my doctor did an ultrasound on my leg and pelvis and found severe blood clots/deep vein thrombosis going from my pelvis down into my left knee. I could have died had I not come in. I was supposed to have my daughter via c section. a week later on July 5...well after the blood clots were discovered i was told I was being gsent to OHSU 2 hours away in portland. I made arrangements for someone to come pick up my son and watch him for what I thought would be a couple days, and I was sent in an ambulance for 2 hours to OHSU. onece there they told me I'd be having the baby either that night or tommorow and we'd go from there. June 28: in needed nurse help to get up and get to the bathroom. they told me they wanted to do a vein filter in me before the c section bc they didn't want the blood clots to travel to my lungs, heart, or brain. so later that day they performed a surgery to insert a vein filter through my neck down into my kidney. I was awake the whole time.

June 29: in had my baby this day. I was still in rough shape. I needed 3 bachs of blood before the surgery. she was born healthy at least at 7.9lb. they had to insert a catheter because after with the c section and the pain from the severe deep vein thrombosis I could not get up. i was told I might be able to leave in the next couple days

I wasn't released until July 4th. I still couldn't walk and I had a newborn and a 7 year old. we went back home to the shelter and for a month and a half I was mostly bed ridden. needed a walker and a shower chair.

between doctors appointments, kids, and not being in good physical health it was rough those first couple months. I also got told I'd be on blood medication for the rest of my life and that the blood clots could always come back. to this day my legs still swell and get painful to the point i cant keep going if I am standing, walking, or sitting on a hard surface too long. I need to keep my legs elevated at night to help the swelling and pain bc despite everything in still a mom and still gotta get around.

fast foward to September 2024:

we got into a better family shelter. with better programs and caseworker to help find permanent housing.

This entire time I had still been using my damaged car that my daughters father ruined. I couldn't get a new bumper because it needs to be a custom bumper. the cheapest I've got quoted was 3.500 dollars. that is half of what I paid for the car. and not an expense I can afford in my situation. so I just drove it. I'm guessing this wasn't good for the car because..

in October, I was taking someone to the store when al of a sudden my car went into lag mode. I pressed the accelerator pedal and it wouldn't go.

this had made my life so much more difficult. when it was already difficult. I feel stuck. the bus system is horrible here, almost non existent. everything is spread out. and I don't know many people woth a vehicle. I had a friend tow my vehicle to the shelter and it sat until I could figure something out.

Nov 2024: i got into permanent housing. this was exciting. I was happy something was working out. but the housing was in in even smaller town 44 min drive away from my support systems, doctors, resources, and my friends. I accepted it tho bc i dod not want to stay in the shelter. overall it was the better choice. stability for my family. moving took o er 2 weeks bc my peer counselor helped me when she had free time.

my car was still next to the shelter. I had no way to get it to my apartment 45 min away. my friends who had previously helped me with it couldn't for a while.

Feb 2025; different friends were able to help tow my car to my apartment. upon having it back I was able to have someone scan it and found 6 different things that came up. 4 for flow, 1 for emissions, 1for crankshaft sensor. I had been told my health insirance would use flex funds to help me.

March 2025

I was notified that flex funds would not help get my car fixed. at this point I am frustrated. even if I get it fixed I know they would.t cover the bumper...and I feel like that's probably part of why stuff Is acting up... at the end of March my in home nurse helps me fill out an application for angels anonymous. she said they might be ae to help me get 2,000 toward getting a used car for us. so we fill out the application

today, 4/13/2025:

I got a call from angels Anonymous telling me they no lo ger help with cars. so now I am at a loss. I onece again feel stuck. I can't even walk to the grocery store here bc there's no sidewalks and I'd have yo walk with a baby on highway 101. I decided to make a gofund me because I had been told a while back to try it. I've never had luck with anything like this though..so I didn't do it. but now...I need it. I have or know nothing about any other resources...

I can get a used car for 2-3 thousand at multiple car lots I've done the research. I'm getting my taxes for my child credits done and I'm sure I will get a little bit that way but I just need help with a bit more so that we can get a vehicle. this would mean the difference between staying stuck and thriving. please if you can in any way...even if it is just sharing, help us.

thank you

if there are any questions or anything let me know. I will be updating as I can.