I can't count how many concerts he took me to, but it was probably 50 or so. He was the reason I have a passion and appreciation for music. I can't count how many times he told me he was proud of me and told me to not give up. His confidence in me encouraged me in the worst of times. I love my Dad and he will always be a part of who I am. I thank him for walking me down the aisle and being there on the best day of my life. I am so grateful to God we were able to experience that together. My words and thoughts are not clear and won't be for a while as my mind feels like a whirlwind of confusion and sadness. My brother, David wrote this on his Facebook yesterday and I'd like to share:
"Yesterday at 1:20 PM local time, my father, David Hakola, officially left this world. The outpouring of love from friends and family has been unbelievably appreciated and incredibly humbling.
Dad wanted to be the type of person who brought people together to love and share and laugh, and here in his last moments, he did exactly that. Friends and family from all over came to see him. And while many of us are hurt that he won't be with us anymore, I'd like to tell you he will: he lives on through us. The stories, the lessons learned, and the memories. Additionally, his organs will be used to bring hope and life to a few fortunate patients in need, so his death is bringing life to a few people, and that should make us all smile, as even physically part of him will still be around.
Dad believed he had a life full of lessons to be given, both through following his example and avoiding it. His last lesson to us is an important one: don't isolate yourself. You are never alone. Hold onto friends and family, because we are not strong enough on our own for all that life throws at us. And never forget: you are more loved than you can possibly imagine, so don't try to convince yourself otherwise.
We won't hold a memorial service. Instead, we're planning to celebrate his life on his birthday in October. We will laugh, trade stories, love each other, and remember all the good he brought this world. As we get more planned out, I'll post location and details, and anyone who loved him and called him friend is invited.
If you'd like to help us in some way, right now we need financial help to settle bills, take care of debts, and deal with the expenses associated with his passing. Sammii and I appreciate anything you are willing or able to do to help. If you feel more comfortable donating in person, that's okay, too.
Thank you all for your love and thoughts and prayers and care. Please don't feel if we don't respond right away to a text or a call or a message that we don't care or didn't notice. It is noticed, it's appreciated, and we love you all, too.
I love you, Dad. I'm glad we had a relationship again where we could laugh, talk, learn, and teach each other. I'm sorry you never made it up to live with me and your grandson.
I hope we continue to make you proud. No more pain, anxiety, fear, guilt, or frustration for you: you can rest in peace, now.
No more Eeyore for you, now you get to be Tigger."
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